Post # 1
I need some advice. I currently live in Chicago, I’m getting married in NY, and my friends mostly live in NY+Boston. Initially I thought it would be fun to have a bachlorette party out here in Chicago since I’ll be living alone all summer, but I recieved alot of hestitation from friends who did not want to pay for the travel costs. I completely understood, so we decided to hold the party at a friends house just north of boston instead. Since I am now the only one traveling for the event, would it be ok for me to hint/ask my bridal party/guests to reimburse my airfare ($300)? The other costs of the weekend will only be food and drink, and we will likely not leave the lake house at all over the weekend.
Thanks for your input/help on this bees!
Post # 3
eeek…I dn’t think you should hint. They should probably offer but if that’s not the case then I guess you have to pay :T
Post # 4
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Hmmm… I wouldn’t ask them to pay for your airfare. They’re probably planning on paying for the rest of the party, right?
Post # 5
Hmm….I think it would be okay to hint, but probably not flat out ask people to reimburse you. Just make some offhanded comment like “Wow, I can’t believe airprices these days! It is worth it to spend time with you guys though.” Maybe they will get the hint and give you some cash?
Post # 6
I have a similar situation to you (although a couple of my friends will also be flying in – but most can drive). We’re staying at my parent’s house in south GA near the beach. Even so, personally, I’d never expect my BMs and friends to pay for my airfare. They’ll be splitting the other costs of the weekend (food, drinks, lingerie shower, etc – yay for free lodging though). I just think airfare is too much to ask!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t. I think that is asking a lot and I would be offended if I was throwing a party for someone and they asked to be reimbursed.
Post # 8
If they’re supplying all the food, booze, etc. then I would just pay the $300. They prob won’t ask you to pay for anything else the entire weekend, if you go bar hopping, or out to dinner, etc.
Post # 9
I think you should pay for your own airfare. After all, they are throwing you a huge party. Airfare is the one thing I expect a bride to pay for…after all, room, drinks, food, etc are all paid for!
We rented out a lake house for the last bachelorette party I went to and the bride even paid her share! It made us feel like she wasn’t taking advantage of us, ya know? Definitely don’t ask. And if they DO buy your plane ticket, maybe you can “come up” with a couple bottles for the party? Or make thank you goodie bags for all the girls.
Post # 10
I, personally, wouldn’t be comfortable asking my BMs/party guests to reimburse me for travel, but I think you’ll need to gauge how open they’d be to such a request. Meaning, if my peeps were to plan such a generous gift (my airfare) on their own and offer it to me, I’d totally take it… but I don’t think I’d ever outright ask/hint around for it. I assume that your party planners will still be putting out a chunk of change to buy food/drinks/decor, so it could be costlier than you realize. I think I’d worry that they would feel unappreciated by you, as I’m sure there’s still lots of cost and oodles of planning that needs to be done. But, that’s just my two cents!
Post # 11
I agree with PP. Foot the aifare and if they pay you back great…if not, they are throwing an awesome party.
Post # 12
I was in the exact same situation. My bachelorette was held in Boston and all my girlfriends are in Boston or NY. I live in Nashville and traveled up. I was more than happy to pay my own airfare. They are throwing a party for you.. I think it’s fair that you get yourself there.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t ask or hint. They’re throwing you a weekend-long party and most likely will pay for everything else for you that weekend. Plus, some of them will still have to travel (not as far as you do, but NY to Boston isn’t THAT close).
You should make a poll! 🙂
Post # 14
Thanks for the advice so far, it is nice to hear. I would normally never even suggest that other people pay for my travel, but since I am the only one who has to travel I will essentially be paying significantly more than all the attendees. We are staying at a lake house (owned by my future inlaws) all weekend and will not be going out to any meals/bars, since they are all a min of a 30-min drive away. I recently threw a bachlorette party for a friend and the cost of food/drinks/decorations for 20 people came to about $400 for the weekend.
Post # 15
I would not even hint. Your friends are throwing you a party already, I think asking them for airfare is a little too much. I just had my bachelorette party and I paid for my flight. I would be a little annoyed if I were a bridesmaid and the bride-to-be wanted me to pay for her flight.
If they offer, you can graciously accept. Otherwise, be ready to pay your own way and enjoy the drinks and fun when you get there!
Post # 16
I would definitely pay for my own airfare and not hint or ask. If they had initially offered it would be one thing. But I am assuming they are already going to drop a decent chunk of cash hosting the entire weekend. I think that is plenty for them to take care of.