Post # 1
My wedding isn’t until next year, but I’ve already set up a hair stylist (my normal hair stylist – she’s great!). I’m having 5 BMs – My two sisters, my 2 FSILs, and 1 friend. I was chatting with my FSILs last week about dress shopping and some DIY stuff I’m thinking about doing, and they asked if there was anything else regarding their outfits or the day of that they needed to know. I told them that the only thing I could think of was that I’d set up for my hair stylist to do everyone’s hair, and that I will be paying for her to do the bridal party’s hair.
I told them that I would need to know a few months prior if anyone extra needed their hair done (meaning their mother, FSILs step daughter who will be flower girl, etc), and one Future Sister-In-Law responded saying that her and her step daughter (flower girl) have hair appointments with another stylist. I have no problem with them getting their hair done elsewhere – it’s their hair. My question is – should I offer to pay for their hair since they aren’t having my stylist do it? I have no idea what her stylist charges, and my stylist is giving me a very good deal as she’s an old friend. I responded to her message saying that if she wanted to save her money she could cancel her appointment, but that it was completely up to her what she wanted to do – that I wouldn’t be offended by her having someone else do her hair.
Should I have offered to pay for her stylist to do her hair, or should I just leave it? Her and I have a good relationship, and I’d like to keep it that way – so I want to do the right thing. I’m trying to be as easy going as possible and trying to make being one of my bridesmaids be a fun experience rather than a financial burden.
Post # 2
futuremrss17 : I don’t think you need to offer to pay. If you’re paying, you should be able to choose who the stylist is for the exact reason you already brought up. You know your budget and your stylist fits your needs.
Post # 3
futuremrss17 : No, I really don’t think she has any expectation you’ll pay, given that she already made this appointment for herself and stepdaughter before having any idea that you might be willing to pay for hair. Offering your stylist is the most you need to do! I can see her preferring to pay and go to a stylist she trusts than take a chance with yours.
Post # 4
Nope. If she wants it paid for she should use your stylist.
Post # 5
citysparkle : bee333 : brideinthesix : Thank you guys. That makes me feel better about it!
Post # 6
Agree with PPs – if she wants it free she can use your girl.
Post # 7
No. You don’t have to pay for her to go somewhere else. You asked everyone get their hair done by your stylist, and said you would pay for it. If someone isn’t getting their hair done by your stylist, you don’t have to pay for it.
I would find out of the little girls could have their hair done at your salon, that way everyone could be together.
Post # 9
No, she made a separate appointment and should pay for it herself. As you said, you have no idea what the cost is! It’s very nice of you to pay for all your bridesmaids and extended family.
I think you’re worrying over nothing – she certainly doesn’t seem to expect you to pay for her.
Post # 10
italianbride0508 : I was hoping we could all get it done together for this reason. Our photographer will be doing photos while we get ready – and we planned on having mimosas and stuff during our hair appts (will be going to the church after that, so no alcohol there obviously). Hopefully her appointment will be earlier and she can at least join us for that.