(Closed) Should I pick up a third job?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sucks that you even need to consider having 2 jobs let alone 3! but you gotta do what you gotta do.

This economy is so F***ed that college degrees are totally useless.  Honestly, have your Fiance dumb down his resume.  It sucks going to school and then having to delete it from your resume but having an underqualified job is better than no job.  So press delete and poof you’re qualified.  Add some menial jobs – Usher at AMC, and you’re good to go for other menial jobs.

good luck.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

First, I would edit your post to remove the references to the names if your employers. No one needs to know that.

Second- No- I don’t think you should get a third job. You are already working ? 70-80 hrs per week. You need some time off to be with your daughter and time for yourself.

Third- Everyone knows how difficult the job situation is today, but your Fiance needs to find other work.You should not have to have ” another adult to take care of “. Your Fiance should adapt his resume- leave off the higher education for jobs that don’t require it. If his resume has high scholl graduation as his level of achievement he will have an easier time finding bridge jobs until the market for his real skills improves.

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t think you should take a 3rd job.  It is very important to spend quality time with your daughter.  They grow up so fast and you can’t get the time back.  You’re already spendng A LOT of time at work with the two jobs.  Have Fiance follow pp’s suggestion about dumbing down his resume (I know that sounds awful, but just like you feel you have to do what you have to do, he has to do what he has to do.)  He really needs to be the one to get the job, for his self esteem and for the sake of your mother/daughter quality time.  Good luck to the both of you!

Maybe now that you are “in” at Ean N Park you could explain that you already took a second job and recommend your Fiance for the/a position there.  

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@julies1949: agree. 

 

Why can’t Mr. Tattoo get a job waiting tables? Or some other similar minimum wage type deal? I would think it would be a lot easier for him because generally design work is pretty flexible as to hours.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@2ndtime: I agree – Miss Tattoo, see if you can get your Fiance a position at Eat N Park instead of you.  Then you have 2 jobs and he has one plus his freelance work.  Plus, he’d probably be able to work more hours at Eat N Park than you so financially, you’d come out ahead.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

That third job sounds like way too much-you work a lot already!  Maybe your Fiance could sign on at a temp agency.  He’s college-educated and obviously knows computers so working in an office shouldn’t be a problem. And the money is pretty decent too, plus it will boost his self-esteem to be doing something more suited to him than work at a gas station.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That sucks.  May I ask what his degree is in?  Are there any local community colleges, often times they have adjunct positions?  Is there a local university, he could try applying to their IT dept?

EDIT: I really don’t think taking a 3rd job would be good.  I could see either resentment building between you two (you for having to work 3 jobs and him for seeing you having a couple of steady jobs) or your daughter having a rough time without you.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Oof.

I don’t think you should take the job, if only because it will mean never seeing your daughter and clocking 100 hour weeks.  I’d worry for your health, working that much!

Has Mr. Tattoo looked into job counselling or other services through the PA Department of Labor?  They might have some ideas about how to present his resume in a more attractive way that don’t necessarily entail removing his college education.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

i know it is hard to hear this….but there is no reason why you shuld be working 3 jobs and he isnt even working 1 stable one. my Fiance would never do that….he would wash toilets if he knew that would support our family.

you are such a strong amazing women…..and you are working your butt off right now….. there is no reason why you should get a 3rd job. help him find a 1 job first!

btw: awesome job keeping yor family out of the welfare system. i know alot of mothers turn to that first and abuse the system.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@julies1949: totally agree.

You do NOT need to take on another job. You are doing more than your fair share already. Your Fiance needs to remove all the higher ed stufff from his resume and go get a job waiting tables to help supplement the income. I get that it would be a step down “career” wise for him, but he needs to man up, just saying, let go of the pride, and do what he’s gotta do.

You love your daughter, and it sounds like you are doing everything you can to give her a great life, but at somepoint, you’ve gotta say, spending time with my daughter is more important than being able to take her to Chuck-E-Cheese. Some of the best memories I have with my parents from when I was little don’t involve trips or special events, it was just little things, like playing fort with my Dad using blankets in our living room, or being my mom’s helper in the garden.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

No 3rd job. Have Mr.T dumb down his resume. Leave off his college education and list only companies, job title and dates. He should tell them he is looking for a 2nd job. I know I was able to find a job at Macy’s many years ago even though I had a college degree because it was a 2nd job.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Miss Tattoo: has he looked on craigslist? I see tons of jobs posted every weekend, random stuff, like people needing someone to help them move, to needing someone to help them spread mulch, all kinds of stuff, but it all pays something.

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