Should I plan a bachelor party for my fiance?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
9458 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I was in a similar situation with my bridesmaids. I would have been mortified if my husband had done something like this. It just sounds like a pity party, to be honest I think it would just highlight that none of his groomsmen threw him a bachelor party.

I still had the full wedding experience without a bachelorette party, by the way.

Post # 3
597 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t do that. It’s kind of awkward. Lots of people don’t have bachelor/bachelorette parties. 

Post # 4
3721 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I wouldn’t. My husband and I had a co ed get together with some of our close friends and went bar hopping, so neither of us had the stereotypical bachelor/ette party. If he doesn’t have friends who live nearby then it might make him feel even more awkward. It sucks that he won’t have his own, but I would suggest the co ed scenario and see what he says.

Post # 5
2182 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would splurge on a flight home for the weekend and have the brother plan something….. if you don’t actually have a lot of friends in your area who would even attend? I would much rather go home for the weekend and chill on the couch and not do anything with my besties than have an all out party with a bunch of strangers

if you want to do something nice talk to the brother about planning something at home and surprise him with a flight there/back

Post # 6
6028 posts
Bee Keeper

Your heart’s in the right place, but the Bees who’ve already posted are right, it will come off as a pity party his fiance had to arrange for him. In his shoes, I’d be embarrassed to know my fiance stepped in. It’s too bad his wedding party is too scattered for a bachelor party, but he’ll get to enjoy having them at the wedding, try psyching him up about that and maybe plan a special pre-wedding date night for just the two of you to relax and unwind a bit before things get hectic . 

Post # 7
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I know my Fiance would be so embarrassed if I did this. You’re sweet to think of him and want the best for him and the wedding experience but I would let it go. 

Post # 8
2911 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I’m sure he would really appreciate the sentiment but it would be pretty embarrassing. I wouldn’t. Tons of people don’t have Bach. parties, he will be fine. 

Post # 9
47152 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


If he doesn’t have a lot of friends, it is unrealistic to expect that someone is going to host a bachelor party for him.

Can his brother plan something for when they are all together for the wedding? It doesn’t have to be a drunken party? They could all go out together for brunch and go to a high end mens’ salon for pre wedding shaves and haircuts.


Post # 10
1274 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

ew god no. i would hate it if my Fiance planned my bachelorette party, it would feel so controlling.

tell his friends to step up for him.

Post # 11
6402 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

No, you shouldn’t.

Post # 12
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

futuremrsfraser :  How far out is the wedding? Maybe he can go back to Ontario for a weekend?

Post # 13
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

If traveling to Ontario is not an option, I would opt for a fun day/night out with just the two of you and do something you two haven’t done before. Let it be both of your last single night out “together.” 🙂

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