Post # 1
A good friend of mine is getting married, and having a small wedding. Since it’s small, she doesnt have an official “bridal party” and just said that me and three other girls are her honorary bridesmaids.
I’ve been helping her with some aspects of her wedding, and wonder if the other girls have been contributing anything. When I ask, she just says they’ve been busy. I feel bad because I dont think anyone is planning a bachelorette or shower for her? Of course she won’t say anything, but now I’m wondering if I should initiate something? I dont know how to approach the other girls though because not only do I not really know them well, but also I don’t want to end up planning and paying for EVERYTHING. I too am busy but make time for her a few times a month to help her with planning.
Should I just do a girls day out kind of thing with just me and her (e.g. spa day)? Do you think she’ll appreciate that, or would she be disappointed that it’s not a party with the other girls involved? (I dont really know her other friends so don’t know who I could invite)
Post # 3
@Happy Donut: My wedding is very small, and my bachelorette party is basically my BMs and one other very close friend (invited to the wedding, not in the wedding party). No shower.
I actually like having the smaller party, we have an awesome night planned that we couldn’t have done with more people!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I would try reaching out to the other girls (without the bride’s knowledge) to plan something. If they don’t want to contribute then you should definitely do something the two of you! I’m sure she would totally appreciate a night out on the town with you – a small bachelorette outing will probably be less drama anyway.
Post # 5
Honestly, I would be happy with either a 1 on 1 day or with a few friends. For my bachelorette party we’re doing a small wine tasting day on a Sunday afternoon, so not too crazy but a little fun
Post # 6
@Happy Donut: My BFF didn’t have an official bridal party either. I asked her to put me in contact with her closest girlfriends. We ended up planning a shower for her and helped with a lot of decor stuff for the wedding.
You can just ask for the names of her other “honorary” bridesmaids and friend request them on Facebook. It would be nice to plan a day– even if it’s just manis and lunch with these girls.
Post # 7
I think it would be a really nice gesture to surprise your friend with lunch/manis (or drinks and a movie or whatever) with the honorary bridal party!
Post # 8
A bach party or shower can be hosted by anyone. You don’t have to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man to host. If you want do it. I’m sure your friend will be really grateful.
Post # 9
@Happy Donut: You should definitely do something! I’m having a tiny (26 guest) wedding, and I’m not having a bridal party. One of my close girl friends organized a bachelorette party for me, and I’m so grateful. It doesn’t have to be expensive! We’re just going out to sushi and then out to the bars. It will just be my 4 closest girlfriends, who are invited to my wedding.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone!! I found the other honorary bridesmaids on her facebook friends list, and contacted them after seeing your responses. Surprisingly, they replied quickly and all seemed interested in doing something for her. If anything, it seemed like they were also waiting on someone to initiate it. Now just a matter of finding a date and place we can all agree on.
I just didnt want my friend to get married without her having a little celebration for her “last hurrah”. I think it will also be good for her to hang out with who she considers her close girlfriends and catch up a few weeks before the big day.