(Closed) Should I Plan My Friend's Wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

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friendofbride18 :  If your friend and her Fiance can’t/won’t plan their own wedding, refer her to a professional wedding planner. Really, planning a wedding is something that you do because it’s your own wedding, or because it’s your job. Neither is your case.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

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friendofbride18 :  Why has she asked you to plan her wedding? 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I wouldn’t agree to it, but I’d say she could bounce ideas off me.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Just say you don’t have the time. Planning a wedding is alot of work.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

That’s a bit odd. Is she actually asking you take over and do the planning for her, or is she just asking for help, like feedback, someone to bounce ideas off, etc?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Heaven forbid something doesn’t go according to plan – are you willing to be the whipping horse for some (real or perceived) problem?  

I’d go with PP who said you would be happy to bounce ideas around, but tell her you don’t have the time, money or experience to want to take on this large project.  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

depends what is expected from you. Is it helping to plan a wedding in a way that you go  with her to check out the venue or are you expected to do the research and make phone calls?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Without even reading the post, just the title, my answer is no.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Eh, I think the most you can ask for is a sounding board.  One of my bridesmaids helped me comb through makeup artists on wedding wire because we have similar styles in makeup, and she found the one I went with. But I did all the actual calling. And I only asked her  because she found this stuff fun. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

I would agree to help out and be a sounding board for her ideas and even have some brain storming meetings –  but don’t take on any ‘official’ tasks or paperwork type responsibilities. Not only is it totally unfair for her to ask that of you, but it would be really hard on your friendship as well.

It’s her and her husband’s job to plan their wedding, if they need help then they’ll need to hire someone. 

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