(Closed) Should I plan my own bachelorette?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

It would be strange if you planned your own Bachelorette party. I would hint around a little more to your Bmaids to get the ball rolling.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you’re planning on throwing a party for yourself, I’d expect you to pay for everyone.  You can’t throw yourself a party and expect everyone to pay their own way.  Is that what you really want to do? 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m in kind of the same boat – my Maid/Matron of Honor is coming in from another country, and my other bridesmaids are on opposite coasts (wedding in Missouri.)  My Maid/Matron of Honor and I are kind of loosely planning it together.  Probably going to be an hour away, so we don’t want to do it after the rehearsal.  And none of us really know what is available in that area (we have a few bars and a bowling alley with odd hours – not really bachelorette party stuff.)  Might just be walking around a mall and going out for dinner and drinks.

Looking for other responses…  🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My mom planned my shower, and I put together something for my bachelorette.  None of my bridesmaids are in the area, none of them had money & none of them had the time to do any of the above.  One didn’t come to my shower, and my sister didn’t come to my bachelorette.

My bachelorette was the Thursday before the wedding.  I got a group of like 10 people together.  Everyone met downtown, some carpooled, we had dinner, drinks after and everyone went home around 1030.

Then there was no “hotel to split” or “limo to split”.  Everyone paid for their dinner and drinks & a couple girls bought me a drink.  My mom covered my dinner.

I think that if no one is going to do it for you, plan your own.  You are entitled to have one, I would just make it simple & not expect that everything would be covered.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@LacrosseBride:  Have you never planned a night out with girlfriends?  Why would she have to pay for everyone?

You can absolutely plan a night out with your girlfriends.  Invite everyone to meet at your house, bring an app to share and then head out for the night.  Usually, when friends go out everyone pays for themselves anyway, so why can’t you plan a night out to celebrate you getting married?  But, I think you should frankly ask your Maid/Matron of Honor if there is anything in the works as not to step on someone else’s plans.  And, do not be upset if not everyone can come.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I am actually considering the same thing! 🙂 I don’t know why they would expect you to pay for everything. It’s just a night out, and in my opinion, that imply’s paying your own way… Once again that is just my opinion :). Have fun!!! And Congrats!

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