Post # 1
My fiance and I designed our wedding website, and I want to show it off. Right now it only has save the date information, and ultimately it’ll just be a site with information on the location of the venue, pictures of us, our story, and fluff-stuff like that.
But, would it be rude to post a link to our wedding site on FB or twitter?
I am hoping that none/very few people would would then expect an invitation just because they got access to a web address… I don’t think my friends/family are that greedy/stupid.
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t do it because it can put you in an awkward position. Ideally, people wouldn’t be so gauche as to automatically expect invites but then again, you never know. I think people who really don’t know you that well will not expect to be invited but people in the grey area (especially if you are doing a smaller wedding) may be disappointed. Grey area people are like people you haven’t talked to in a year but was semi-close to once upon a time.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@AquaGrey8962: I did and several of my FB friends have, but I expect lots of bees will tell you not to given not everyone of your FB friends will be invited to your wedding.
But like you said, not all of your 500 or whatever number friends can expect an invitation.
Post # 5
I’m FB friends with some brides who posted their links, and I didn’t assume I was invited.
But it did remind me that I wasn’t invited, and I felt it was kind of rude.
Could you change the settings on the post to only include people who are invited?
Post # 6
What if you send the link in a private message only to those that you intend to invite?
We sent out the save the dates before we finished our site. Will most likely put the link on our invitiations.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t do it. The only people that need to see it are the ones who will be invited, so you can include it on the invite or if you guests ask ahead of time you can just give it to them personally.
Post # 8
Absolutely not. You can show it off when you send save the dates. Putting wedding info out there for people who will not be invited is rude.
Post # 10
I find it really gauche when people do this. The point isn’t to show off your website, it’s to deliver helpful information to your guests. If all your facebook friends aren’t guests, then there’s no reason to share it. You should include a link to it on your save the date or invitation.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t b/c I’ve seen posts on here about brides who shared a little too much on FB, then had to deal with the awkwardness of people inviting themselves and the whole lot. Why add that extra possible stress?
Post # 12
I appreciate everyone’s reply 🙂
I’m so torn. When ever I’ve seen posts/links to other people’s weddings, I never, ever assume anything. If I get a physical invitation in my hand (or email, some people are doing those these days, lol) THEN I “assume” I’m actually invited.
But I know not everyone “gets” this.
Post # 13
Please don’t do this. Unless you want to invite all your facebook friends, I would find this rude. Note like really bad rude. But roll my eyes rude.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I would not, in fact as much as I do like Facebook I have been very careful about what wedding information I post. I have posted pretty much nothing about our wedding.
I put our wedding website on our Save the Date cards, we sent out 80 of them and our website has almost 900 page views, so I don’t think it needs to be publicized anymore than that.
Post # 15
I thought about doing that, then realized i didn’t invite “certain family members” on my friends list and decided not to because that would be rude.
Post # 16
I don’t necessarily find it rude, but it does annoy me. One of my friends put theirs up on Facebook and even though I’m invited (in fact, Fiance is a groomsman) it just annoyed me. It’s too showy or “look at us” for my taste. Idk why I feel that way because I don’t think that when I see engagement pictures…maybe it’s because people put the “how we met” and “how he proposed” stories and those just annoy me because most of the time it just seems like a bragfest of how awesome they are as people.
ok, sorry. End rant.
ETA: just put it on the Save the Date