Post # 1
Just wanted to everyone’s input on whether posting my wedding website on Facebook would be a good idea. I mostly have close friends and family on there but a few acquaintances and such (My facebook is cannot be viewed by only friends). I don’t mind that they see it, I’m just worried that someone might take it as a sign that they can RSVP online when that’s not the point. Any thoughts or comments?
Post # 3
I would only do it if you can make it so that only those that are invited to the wedding can see the website. Otherwise people who aren’t invited might be upset.
ETA: Personally, I’m trying to keep my wedding off of facebook as much as possible, so I would only put the website information in the save the dates and invitations.
Post # 4
Nope. Not a fan.
There are endless threads on here dedicated to this – both from the point of view of friends who saw it but aren’t invited, AND from brides who did it and regret it due to everyone finding out the details.
I don’t see why you’d do this honestly.
Post # 5
@KristenGotMarried: Agreed. It can also be seen as a gift grab if your registry is on the website. But, mostly, it’s just an invitation for drama.
Post # 6
If there is any RSVP info or any registry information, I would leave it off. It if is a story site about how you two met and a bio of each of you, I think that would be fine.
Post # 8
Nope. Unless all of your Facebook Friends are invited, (or you make it so the posting is only visible to those who are), it has no business being posted on your page.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Nope- I agree with KGM- not a fan. If I’m a friend who wasn’t invited, I’d be a little hurt. FB+ weddings can equal a big mess! (and you can end up with a few surprise RSVPs that way!)
Post # 10
I have 400 friends on Facebook. My wedding guestlist consists of 30 people. I proudly posted my site on facebook. My friends are well aware that we are having a small, destination wedding. I actually made a status about this the other day out of curiosity, and got overwhelming support about posting my wedding updates on facebook. My friends support me and enjoy seeing updates, even knowing that they are not invited. And vice versa. When I see someone updating about their wedding I don’t get upset because I’m not invited. I’m happy for them and interested in their details. I love to visit their website to get ideas! Haha
Post # 11
I kept wedding details off Facebook completely. It just seems like inviting drama, and the same way I wouldnt blabber on about a party in front of someone I wasn’t inviting in person I just didn’t feel it was polite
Post # 12
I voted what never, even though my response would be more like a simple “no”
Post # 14
I wouldn’t. Even if you’ve got a Facebook group of just wedding guests, and post it only so that group can see it, you might not have your security settings set so that others can’t see it when guests comment— or your guests might not have their security set right either. I think it’d be kind of thoughtless towards those who aren’t invited, and could make it too easy for someone to invite themselves along.
Post # 15
I didn’t. It’s just asking for trouble.
Post # 16
Thanks everyone for your input! That’s why I posted this thread so I can get input of things I couldn’t foresee happening. I really just wanted to share it with friends and family who I knew couldn’t make it either because of out of state or out of the country but might private message them with the info. I don’t think I ever thought about it from the perspective of the uninvited friend.