Post # 1
Hi all, asking the question that probably a billion ladies have done before.. should I move my wedding? It’s 5 months and 19 days out.
My bridesmaids are like “just wait it out girl, who cares”, and my parents are like “move it asap, this is ridiculous.” And I’m like stuck in limbo second guessing myself.
PLAN A WEDDING THEY SAID..IT WILL BE EASY THEY SAID. I guess I am feeling it a little more than perhaps other September brides.. obviously it’s absolutely shit for everyone, especially those getting married much sooner. But I’m a bit jaded as our original venue went into liquidation like 4 months ago, took our $4,000 deposit. They’re in too much debt to repay anyone.. we finally found a new venue, got the invites redone for a second time (these were letterpress and gold foil, I died on the inside when the first set became unuseable, but had to pay for them again ugh)…and now we may have to postpone and replan etc.
For anyone not aware, in Australia they have put a ban in place, no more than 5 people at a wedding for an unknown period of time. The media keeps saying 6 months, but no actual date in place by the Government so it could be lifted. And my venue is now closed, hopefully it will reopen or we’ll lose another $5,000 deposit ugh!!
I would like to wait for say 2 months..but I’d be happy to postpone if it meant everyone could celebrate with us and be safe and healthy etc.
Thoughts? I’ve for like 20 vendors to line up.. 🙁
Post # 2
If you want everyone to be there, I would postpone until next year.
Post # 3
Can you postpone and keep all your deposits?
Post # 4
mostly. I just need to get all vendors on board with the same date..
Post # 5
hey! Where are you getting married? I was August 29 in Sydney, and I’ve moved it to next February. They are estimating 6 months of disruptions – i would postpone.
Post # 6
i’m in the US and we arent postponing YET. 9-19 is our date. In fact, most spring brides here are rescheduling for fall of this year. They are quite optomistic, id say.
I will add that we are okay with some people having to miss is to stay healthy and safe.
Post # 7
Depends on how big your wedding is currently planned to be and how determined you are to keep to your plans. If it’s smallish, or you’re prepared to go smaller, I’d wait. If it’s huge and you want to keep it that way, then postpone now.
Post # 8
Sorry to be a downer but yes I would reschedule 🙁
Post # 9
RE the first venue, not sure how the law works there but can you sue the insurance company for that first venue? It doesn’t seem right that they kept everyones deposits. They liquidated they should have paid people back something. I’d argue that the cash you gave them should be up there in creditors they owe. But I’m in the US also not a lawyer….
Post # 10
I’m in a similar boat. My wedding is in September, but my venue is asking if I can wait until end of June. They are currently rebooking April-May brides at the moment for August -November of this year. They feel pretty confident. I feel like you should wait because things could be fine.
Post # 11
hey! melb bee here 🙂
I think at this stage it could go either way and to be honest i feel like weddings can be stressful enough without worrying about whether it may or may not go ahead for the next few months.. sorry I’d probably postpone a year to be sure – that is if you do definitely want a big wedding with all friends and family. 🙁
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2020 - City, State
Agree with the other brides, if you want the big wedding with everyone there then I would postpone.
However, we are having a September 19th wedding and my fiancé and I have decided we’re getting married on that date regardless. I did just make a Plan B – a new, smaller guest list that only includes family and bridal party, and we’re ok with that. Of course we want everyone there, but we just want to be married (and make sure everyone is safe, of course)!
Hell, I’d marry him alone in our barn venue. We already paid for it! Hugs bee. It will all work out. It is the uncertainty that is the hardest thing, imo.
Post # 13
Hugs Bee, I’m also in Australia and the restrictions have forced us to postpone our wedding (it was supposed to be this coming weekend).
My advice is to hang in there – sort of. Talk to your ‘VIP’ vendors the ones you can’t do the wedding without (venue, caterer, photographer, etc.) see how they are feeling and how much notice they need to be given to postpone. If you can I would wait another month and see if we have any clarity on the restrictions and timeframes we have in place.
If it were before September I would definitely postpone, but I feel like September could go either way at the moment. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, I know how stressful it is but fingers crossed these crazy times don’t last as long as they’re predicting!
I’m always happy to chat if you need someone to talk to as well <3
Post # 14
If you are leaning towards postponing then I wouldn’t wait. Especially if you want to get married this year. September onwards is the traditional wedding season here so it is likely to already be heavily booked so you would be competing for limited slots with other couples who have had to postpone.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2020 - Santa Barbara
I’m in the US and mine is October and I just canceled it today.