Post # 1
I am prepairing to send out 152 invitations next week for my May 21st wedding. I have yet to take the invitation to the post office to be weighed so I don’t know exactly how much the postage is going to run. I am assuming around $120. My question is this: is ok not to include a stamp on the rsvp card return envelope, or is this considered to be rude? I really don’t want to spend another $80 on stamps that may not even get used; however, if there is already a stamp guest might be more inclined to actually mail the rsvp card back! Uuuhhgg … please offer any advice or experience you may have! Ty 🙂
Post # 2
Yes, you must stamp the RSVP envelope. And many people won’t return it anyway. thats why a lot of brides are going with online RSVPs these days.
Post # 3
In practice, I’ve never seen one that wasn’t stamped, but the etiquette answer is that no, it is not necessary at all. Neither is the pre-printed RSVP card itself. In fact, technically it’s improper since it implies that your guests wouldn’t otherwise reply and need a crutch.
Post # 4
ladylisasmiles: I stamped like 80% of them. For our bridal party and some guests who I figured would respond online (we had 2 RSVP options), I did not stamp. Some of the ones I didn’t think would come back in the mail did and I felt like an ass for making them use their own stamp (or go out and buy one) to mail it back to me. It stinks spending the $100 on stamps, but it makes it a heck of a lot easier on your guests. Just buy prettier ones and it’ll make the whole look seem a little more complete
Post # 5
Yes, you should. And while I agree you could have people RSVP on your wedding website, if you choose to have one, I’m sure you have some non tech savvy guests, such as elderly family members, who would prefer the old fashion route.
Consider it a necessary evil and get the stamps.
Post # 6
If you want the rsvp back then stamp it
Post # 7
Yes. If you want it back. I would not return if unstamped because i dont keep stamps so i would have to make a special trip.
Post # 9
We used postcards for our RSVP cards and were delighted to learn that postcard stamps are less expensive than standard envelope stamps.
Post # 10
Yes, you should provide stamps. I received one RSVP card without a stamp and thought it was poor etiquette. They invited around 500 guests, but still..
Post # 11
Traditionally you wouldn’t even include an RSVP, your guests would respond in handwritting on their best stationery. Times have changed though. Modern etiquette (woah, what even is that?) would suggest that you include a stamped RSVP.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
In the UK we don’t usually include a stamp on the envelope. Some people don’t even give you an envelope…
It wouldn’t bother me, personally, but then I always keep stamps in just in case!
Post # 13
Including a stamp will slightly increase the chances you’ll receive them back. It was like pulling teeth to get ours back, but having been pre-stamped, I’d say we got the majority of them. I didn’t use RSVP’s/return envelopes for immediate family that I knew would be there for sure.
Post # 14
BubblesandCupcakes: As you said “modern” etiquette suggests a stamped return envelope for convenience, but does not require it. I agree it’s a good idea for the convenience of guests and your own sanity.
Post # 15
I didn’t stamp ours since we had an online option as well. I figured if they choose to mail in the card instead of RSVPing online, they can stick on their own stamps! I’ve been really surprised be how many people (even the young folks!) are choosing to RSVP by mail instead of online. Also surprised by the lack of responses in general…