(Closed) Should I pre stamp the rsvp card?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

Yes, you must stamp the RSVP envelope. And many people won’t return it anyway. thats why a lot of brides are going with online RSVPs these days. 

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper

In practice, I’ve never seen one that wasn’t stamped, but the etiquette answer is that no, it is not necessary at all.  Neither is the pre-printed RSVP card itself. In fact, technically it’s improper since it implies that your guests wouldn’t otherwise reply and need a crutch. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

ladylisasmiles:  I stamped like 80% of them. For our bridal party and some guests who I figured would respond online (we had 2 RSVP options), I did not stamp. Some of the ones I didn’t think would come back in the mail did and I felt like an ass for making them use their own stamp (or go out and buy one) to mail it back to me. It stinks spending the $100 on stamps, but it makes it a heck of a lot easier on your guests. Just buy prettier ones and it’ll make the whole look seem a little more complete 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Yes, you should. And while I agree you could have people RSVP on your wedding website, if you choose to have one, I’m sure you have some non tech savvy guests, such as elderly family members, who would prefer the old fashion route.

Consider it a necessary evil and get the stamps.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If you want the rsvp back then stamp it

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Yes. If you want it back. I would not return if unstamped because i dont keep stamps so i would have to make a special trip.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Yes .

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We used postcards for our RSVP cards and were delighted to learn that postcard stamps are less expensive than standard envelope stamps. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Yes, you should provide stamps. I received one RSVP card without a stamp and thought it was poor etiquette. They invited around 500 guests, but still..

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Traditionally you wouldn’t even include an RSVP, your guests would respond in handwritting on their best stationery. Times have changed though. Modern etiquette (woah, what even is that?) would suggest that you include a stamped RSVP.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

In the UK we don’t usually include a stamp on the envelope. Some people don’t even give you an envelope…

It wouldn’t bother me, personally, but then I always keep stamps in just in case!

Post # 13
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Newbee

Including a stamp will slightly increase the chances you’ll receive them back. It was like pulling teeth to get ours back, but having been pre-stamped, I’d say we got the majority of them. I didn’t use RSVP’s/return envelopes for immediate family that I knew would be there for sure.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper

BubblesandCupcakes:  As you said “modern” etiquette suggests a stamped return envelope for convenience,  but does not require it. I agree it’s a good idea for the convenience of guests and your own sanity. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I didn’t stamp ours since we had an online option as well. I figured if they choose to mail in the card instead of RSVPing online, they can stick on their own stamps! I’ve been really surprised be how many people (even the young folks!) are choosing to RSVP by mail instead of online. Also surprised by the lack of responses in general…

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