Post # 1
I am ready to propose! I bought a ring for her and everything…BUT, I am worried about the timing.
She is a Maid of Honor is a wedding in 2010 and the Bachelorette Party is scheduled for July 23-26 (that’s next week!). Should I propose before that party or wait until after? I don’t want to steal any of the other bride’s "glory" at "her" party and everyone be upset with me, ya know?
But, a lot of those girls are good friends with my girlfriend and it would be good for them to all be together too.
Do you see where my dilemma lies??
What advice to the women have for me? Propose soon or wait???
Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
As much as their good friends and it would be nice for her to share the great news, I think after the party would be best! don’t steal the brides thunder, your bride can have her own very special day!
congrats, and welcome to wedding bee!
Post # 4
umm…this post makes me happy!! ….I don’t really think the bachelorette party should keep you from proposing when you really want to. You have two good points so I think you should just do it when you feel like it is the best moment!
Post # 5
I agree—do not steal the brides thunder do it another time
Post # 6
It really depends on how your think your Girlfriend will act. Is she the type that needs all the attention on her? Or is she one who like to lavish on others.
I personally think it would be fun if you did it before. The more marriage talk, the better.
Do you know anything about the bride-to-be? Is she the jealous type?
If you are worried about it causing waves, just wait.
If I were the bride, and my Maid/Matron of Honor got engaged right before my bachelorette, I’d be THRILLED! (Other single gals attending might be a tad jealous, though!) 😉
Post # 7
Wow! A groom to be knows about weddingbee I am impressed! Thats really nice of you to think of that actually about not stealing the other brides "thunder" to be honest I say wait till after the bach weekend because then when your girl shows off her ring/tells everyone it can be all about her and she wont have to worry about making her friend feel bad either. You dont wanna steal your future fiance’s thunder either!!
Post # 8
I’d probably wait. It’s really fun for newly-engaged girls to tell their friends all about it; that’s part of the fun. But she would probably have a hard time not doing that at the bachelorette party… I know I would! Congratulations and I am loving your handle!
Post # 9
Thanks for all the tips! I appreciate your input on this. Keep ’em coming!
Post # 10
As somebody who was proposed to in the exact same situation you’re describing, I would wait. It was really thoughtful of my guy to try to plan it around a time I’d be with my friends, but it made it a little awkward since I had to try the whole time not to steal my friend’s thunder, you know? Wait for a time when all the celebration can be focused on your soon-to-be-fiance. Don’t wait too long, though. She can send them pictures. 🙂
Post # 11
I would wait. I am speaking from personal experience. Both my sister and my dad were engaged within months of me. I am not the type that needs attention, however there were several times when I was hurt by them stealing my thunder.
Post # 12
I had a friend who was proposed to four days before our other friends bachelorette … it was FINE! The bachelorette was just so happy and giddy that she was able to celebrate herself as well as the newly engaged friend — it was also *my* birthday that day and she had the whole group sing happy birthday to me when the dessert came out, it was so wonderful that she was so happy that she was able to be happy for other people.
With that said, I agree with another poster who asked if you know the bachelorette, is she the kind who wouldnt be so gracious? Then I’d wait … but if you think your girlfriend/soon-tob-be-fiance can be somewhat low key about it, then it would be so fun for her to have all her friends be able to see her so soon after!
Good luck – either way, it’ll be perfect!
Post # 13
I would wait if you can but if the stars align and it’s the perfect moment, do it! Or if you think the bride can keep a secret, call her and get her opinion.
Post # 14
I really think you should just wait. Women can be like tigers when it comes to wedding stuff! lol.
However, even if you do wait until AFTER, the bride still might be dissappointed, because her spotlight will officially be on your fiance!
I know, its really silly. Women can be silly…as can men, but we’re not talking about that right now. We’re talking about women only.
Another option is to propose NOW. Like, now, now, as in today. You still have two weeks before her wedding. If you don’t do it today, then DEFINITELY wait.
Post # 15
if you’re ready to propose, i think you can do so beforehand, and then your fiancee can decide whether or not to break the news to her friends at the party or wait until afterwards. she might be able to gauge the other bride’s possible reaction better!
good luck, and congrats!
Post # 16
That seems kind of early to have a bachelorette party…I say propose when you want! If they are her good friends they will be excited for her and not be mad that she "stole the other brides thunder." I know if it was my friend who got engaged prior to my bachelorette party I would just be excited for her!!! That is so nice that you are taking her friend’s feelings into consideration though!