(Closed) Should I put "Adult Reception to follow at 6"

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
13888 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@StL.Ashley:  I agree.  

OP, I would leave off the adults-only lingo.  The point of an invitation is not to point out who is not invited. 

Post # 18
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@peachbaby4008:  I put the ceremony information followed by “Adult cocktail reception immediately following.”  I had one child show up to the ceremony and left right afterwards. No children attended the reception.  My ceremony was at 7 and cocktail style reception following… no sit down dinner.  It made sense to us to exclude children.  I know how touchy this subject is and people all talk about etiquette but honestly, this is your day and you are paying for it so do what is right for you. 

Post # 19
1783 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your wording is fine! It is NOT rude. If you don’t want children at the reception, you don’t have to have them. It is not unheard of. I think you put it very nicely. 🙂 I don’t think it’s up to other bees to decide who is and isn’t coming to your wedding.


The idea of only putting adult names on invitations does not work like pp suggested. My best friend did that and people will still bring their children, trust me. Your wording is perfect. 

Post # 20
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

First of all, how big of a gap are we talking about? Having a long gap from ceremony to reception is really not to the best interest of your guests, especially those from out of town.You might want to rethink either the ceremony time (I know some churches can only do when they can do) or more appropriately the reception time to start closer together. Gaps are not fun and will cause some resentment.

Also agree with PP, you do not make reference to who is and is not invited except with who is listed on the envelope (inner envelope if you’re including). If someone RSVPs with children you call and explain that the invite was only for Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.

Also, most invitation packs will have a separate reception card than the invite (which is for ceremony only). That card should say “Reception to Follow at VENUE”. Remember, anyone invited to ceremony should be invited to the reception.

Post # 21
4943 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@erika1016:  I like that.


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