(Closed) Should I write Judge or Doctor on a siblings invitation?

posted 9 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Why not ask your FI?  Or even your FSIL?  Is your wedding a formal affair?

Even though most of my PhD friends don’t use their Drs. socially, I’m putting it down anyway because of their accomplishments.  My wedding is fairly informal, but I think they deserve the honorific there.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think since it is a non-professional invitation you don’t need Hon. in front of her name. My dad is a judge, and he would probably laugh, since we called the The Honorable to give him a hard time. But your addressing of the title is technically correct, so if you want to do more formal invitations I think that is fine as well.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The Fi made me redo address labels b/c I didn’t use “Dr.” for his 3 cousins.  Because they’re family and we don’t refer them to that I just forgot. 

I guess if you do formal invites, why not go formal all the way right?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Never had the issue with Judges, but I agree I would ask your Future Sister-In-Law. I am sure she may not even know or care what you put. As far as physicians, I was always told and seen that you do put Dr with their name, not necessarily their credentials after. Sorry! I know not a lot of help! 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it should be ‘Honorable …’  She may not care to introduce herself as “I am Judge Jane”, but it’s only proper to address her accordingly whether the wedding event is formal or informal.  

I never introduce myself as Dr.; and I absolutely don’t care if people who don’t know me address me as Ms. or Mrs.; but I do care (just a bit, but still care) that I am addressed properly under certain circumstances (such as a wedding invite) by people who know me and knew how much effort it took for me to get to where I am.  Just my two cents.  🙂

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I would but the honorable… but only for the wedding invitation (ie: not for a thank you card or shower invitations).

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would ask, but its an invitation to her BROTHER’s wedding. I think it would be a bit silly if she took offense that her brother and future sister didn’t address her with the honorific. Especially if the invitation is coming from you (rather than your parents for example) But its such a little thing in my mind I would stop worrying and just flat out ask.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it’s too formal, but that’s just my opinion.  My Future Sister-In-Law has her PhD and I have no plans to address her as “Doctor” on the invite.  Also, my best friend and her husband are both physicians, and I’m addressing their invitation as “Mr. And Mrs.”, not “Dr. and Dr.” 

I guess it depends on your relationship with them and how formal you want to make it all sound.  I like keeping things simple and casual, especially with close friends and family. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

All doctors should be addressed as Dr. It’s not too formal, it’s just right. As far as judges go, I personally would use the formal title no matter what. My husband, who is an attorney, was shocked that you were considering not. LOL Typical!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would put the titles of both doctors and judges.  My fiance is the son of a doctor and I am the daughter of a judge and both with be referred to in the invitation by their titles, so it would be particuarly inappropriate in our case to fail to recognize our guests.  That being said, both titles are difficult to come by and while I doubt that your family would in any way hold it against you, it is a nice gesture to recognize their accomplishments.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It’s much better to be formal than too casual when it comes to people with honorifics like doctors and judges, IMO.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I do think that it’s better to be too formal rather than too casual, but it does depend somewhat on the formality of your wedding. If you are having a formal or semi-formal affair, then use the titles. If it’s a backyard bbq, then I would skip it. No offense to anyone woth these titles, just my 2 cents.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I think it would be nice as well as appropriate to use the titles on your invitations.  I know we did it with our friends who were doctors or lawyers.  Your husband made me laugh, KateMW.  My sister is also an attorney and she expected that I would put “esquire” on her invitation (which I did!)

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