- 5 years ago
I need some opinions here and maybe some moral support.
My boss (whom I have been loyal to for over 10 years) is stonewalling me because I didn’t call him back on time while working on Friday night (we both work from home). I was stuck with a client. I told him that I would call him back as soon as i was finished; however I was overloaded with so much work that I didn’t finish until about 2 am. During that time he sent me a memo saying “I was just calling to ask why your numbers were a bit lower this week, but now I see they are up, so I am a happy camper”. So after this, I assumed everything was all good.
Then at about 230 am he messaged me on skype. I responded back. But he didn’t answer.
The next day I came back to my work computer and saw that he had sent more messages over night saying “Went to bed a little early didnt you!”
I replied and asked what he meant. He said that he wasnt understanding why I went to bed when I had more work to do and that he wasn’t happy that I didn’t call him back for our “scheduled talk” (there never was any such scheduled talk).
But I know better than to argue, so I said right away im SO sorry and asked if he could talk today.
He said NO.
I said ok.
I asked him again today…in a polite way…if he would be able to talk today.
He impatiently responded NOPE too busy. And stonewalled me again. I havent heard from him since.
I feel that I’m being walked all over by this guy. This particularly bothered me because I feel its the icing on the cake after years and years of snide comments and borderline abuse from this person. He has made fun of me for ALL SORTS of things over the years…everything about my family to the types of clothes i wear to where I shop to what music I listen to to the people that I date. He seems to think its all in good fun, but alot of the times over the years his words have hurt me very deeply…and alot of the time I just held it in.
Lately I feel like I am apologizing more and more and more and I am just getting walked all over more and more. My boyfriend feels that after 10 years of service he should be more respectful.
We both feel that him stonewalling me is a form of passive aggressive intimidation.
I donèt know what to do. I could quit and live off my savings for a while. Its just that tomorrow I was supposed to start a new position (under him as well) but now I feel like i have ZERO support and he is making me feel purposely unconfident.
Also, there is no one else above my boss so theres no one I can complain to.
Your thoughts….should I quit…I am in my 30s and want to start a family soon anyway. So im thinking maybe its just better for my health to walk away now.