(Closed) Should I really….????

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Be patient and let him do this his way. You know it is coming, so why are you in such a hurry? The last thing you want is to push him to your timeline. You may make him feel like less of a man if you bully or manipulate him into proposing. On another note, even though you are expecting it, you will still feel that surprising thrill if you don’t know the exact moment it is coming. It is the most amazing feeling to know that he proposed because he could not wait one more minute for you to be his wife, and not because you gave him the “get on with it already” attitude. In his head, he wants this to be the most amazing and wonderful day of your life. When a man loves a woman, all he wants is to make her happy, don’t take that from him. The day will come, I promise, and it will be so much sweeter that you waited patiently.


Congrats on your impending engagement!

Post # 4
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Congrats on the (soon to be) engagement.

If you’re wanting him to speed up so you can start booking for March, maybe just say to him that even though he hasn’t officially proposed yet, you know he wants March, so you need to start making the arrangements now. (I wouldn’t mention the ring at all, or try to hurry the “proposal.”)

Post # 5
660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just be patient it WILL happen. When my fiance proposed he confessed he had had the ring for around 3 months. I didn’t know for sure he was proposing & had no clue he had a ring. He had a special proposal planned so ur Boyfriend or Best Friend probably has something in mind.

Post # 6
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yes, keep quiet and be patient. You have no idea what he has planned, and it WILL happen. BUT, I would stop making wedding plans until you have that ring on your finger. If he tries talking about dates again, just say that you’re not totally comfortable planning without being actually engaged. That might speed things along.

Post # 8
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with the bees that he has a plan in mind so don’t say anything! I also agree with @babylou: thatif he says anything else about March, remind him that arrangements need to be made and soon and that you don’t want to plan until he has proposed. Guys normally don’t realize all the time and work that goes into planning a wedding so he is waiting to give you the ring. fingers crossed that it happens soon!

Post # 9
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

This may sound odd, but once I knew the ring was in the house I was somehow able to relax.  I don’t know, I guess just knowing that is was really going to happen and the ring was nearby was enough. 

Try to chill and that ring will be on your finger before you know it:)

Post # 10
48 posts

YES. Remain quiet!  This is his special moment too.  Let him have it.  

You know he has the ring, be at peace with that information!  

Post # 11
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with the PP – don’t say anything.  I know it can be super frustrating, but if he already has the ring, he is going to do it, just on his own time.

Good Luck with waiting and I hope it happens soon for you!

Post # 12
3303 posts
Sugar bee

*hugs* I am waiting right along with you

Post # 13
2790 posts
Sugar bee

What if you made up some fictional person you work with who just got engaged and she REALLY wanted a February or April, or some time near your date, wedding and how she’s really frustrated that he waited so long because now they have to wait until 2013 to get married. Or say something about how typically people want around a year to plan and now this girl is down to the wire and she’s checked with 100+ reception locations and they are all booked up already so now she doesn’t know what to do.

Post # 14
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Congrats on knowing it’s coming soon!

But yeah, I’d keep quiet about it. If he didn’t mean it, he would have never ponied up the cash to buy the ring, so the part to worry about is over. You know it IS going to happen. He’s probably just taking his time to figure out the absolute perfect way to ask. If you bug him about it, you risk cheating yourself out of something really special. 

If he still hasnt made any moves toward it after ANOTHER month, though, I’d do as MsBrooklynA suggests.

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