Post # 1
I sent out a message to all the girls about the bm dress, sash, and shoes. It came to a little more than I wanted, 180, but with a discount it is 155. I am planning my wedding in 4 months so I had to tell the girls to order the dresses within 10 days of my message (the deadline to get them ordered so they would have plenty of time for alterations was yesterday). I already felt bad pressuring them to order in such short notice. 4 of them have ordered and 2 have not. One is my Maid/Matron of Honor who I love to death but can be very irresponsible. I haven’t talked to the other bm. I talked to my moh last week and she said she was going to go order it the next day but never did.
Would it be too pressuring and bridezillaish of me to send a FB message with a friendly reminder about their dresses? I’m so worried about it. I don’t want to seem like bridezilla though…
Post # 3
um you need to tell them to order their dresses or they are not going to come in in time! where did you get dresses from? if it’s some place like J Crew then that’s one thing but some place like Bari Jay etc. they can take months.
Post # 4
@Kittyachi: Davids bridal. I can “tell” them over and over, it doesn’t mean it will actually get “done”. I’m pretty frustrated.
Post # 5
The deadline is past. Send a friendly email to them and say, “Hey! I know I’m being a bit of a pest, but we’re planning in such a short amount of time, I can’t help it! The deadline to order dresses was yesterday and I noticed that you guys haven’t had a chance to order them yet. Would you mind ordering them today? I’m concerned that if we don’t get them ordered ASAP, they won’t come in on time and you won’t have time to get them altered to fit you perfectly! If there’s a problem, please, PLEASE let me know and I’ll do whatever I can to help!”
They agreed to be in the wedding, so now they need to follow through and do their job. Good luck!
Post # 6
I hate to say it, but I’d say let them know again. They’ll have to pay more to rush the order if they wait. Perhaps you could even send an email/call saying that you need their CC info so that you can purchase the dress.
Does David’s have a pay 1/2 now, 1/2 when you pick it up plan? Pricilla’s does; that is where I ordered dresses for my wedding.
I was just asked to be in a wedding and had 1 week to buy the dress, for a wedding in June. As a Bridesmaid or Best Man sometimes you just have to do what you have to do 🙂 Your wedding is coming up and they should know that they have to wear the dress.
Post # 8
You can tell them again. I think sometimes people don’t think bridesmaids dresses REALLY take that long to come in, but they do. they don’t want to get stuck paying rush fees or ending up with no dress at all.