Post # 17
I don’t think you should respond, unless it’s to say “We’ll miss you. Have a great time!” As was pointed out above, it’s really hard to determine the intent without actual contact. If you didn’t call her, and she didn’t call you, it’s better to not assume she is being rude or throwing a tantrum. If you’re not even that close, it’s no real loss. But for anyone else who responds with extra people, it’s best to call them.
Honestly, anyone in a relationship should be invited with the person they’re with. If space is an issue, you don’t have to invite acquaintances in the first place.
Post # 18
I would just let it go. You said that she wasnt really a friend in the first place. She is being caddy and i dont think that deserves a response In My Humble Opinion.
Post # 19
Don’t respond. That’s quite childish of her.
Post # 20
I would leave it at that. Especially if you are limited on space, I would be happy for a decline
Post # 21
I wouldn’t respond to the text. BUT this is why you need to invite everyone with their signficant other. If you have limited room or budget, then you need to cut your guest list to the point where everyone invited can invite a SO, even if the relationship began later in your planning process. This is also why you need to ask your friends if they are in relationships.
Post # 22
Nope, don’t waste any more time on her
Post # 23
@MidwestBride2012: That’s the ideal but sometimes, to be fair to the OP, it’s extremely difficult to do this. I think I’d rather have friends/family there than less friends/family and a bunch of +1’s i’d never met.
Post # 24
A “Thank for letting me know; you’ll be missed!” should suffice! It’s her loss – but I do know people who get miffed they can’t bring a +1. 🙁
Post # 25
I’d reply just toacknowledge that you got her message, and so there’s NO chance of a misunderstanding later.
I really can’t understand why adults can’t spend half a day aawy from their SO.. little silly IMO.
Post # 26
Yeah like PPs have said – you don’t have to respond, but if you do it should just be a short & sweet “sorry you can’t make it!” She’s probably hoping that you’ll change your mind & let her bring her boyf if she declines. Forget her!
Post # 28
look at it this way she solved the problem for you that sure weeded out good friends from acquaintances, now you can hang with your real friends
no need to pursue it further, unless you reeeealllly want her there
we had a small party of 54 only spouses and fiances my friends understood, don’t sweat it
Post # 29
let it go. no response needed. if you respond it will open a can of worms so it’s best to leave it as is.
Post # 30
*sigh* There’s always at least one.
Let it go. Or just respond with a polite: Thanks for letting us know. We’ll miss you.