(Closed) should I respond?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think you should respond, unless it’s to say “We’ll miss you. Have a great time!” As was pointed out above, it’s really hard to determine the intent without actual contact. If you didn’t call her, and she didn’t call you, it’s better to not assume she is being rude or throwing a tantrum. If you’re not even that close, it’s no real loss. But for anyone else who responds with extra people, it’s best to call them.

Honestly, anyone in a relationship should be invited with the person they’re with. If space is an issue, you don’t have to invite acquaintances in the first place. 

Post # 18
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1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would just let it go. You said that she wasnt really a friend in the first place. She is being caddy and i dont think that deserves a response In My Humble Opinion. 

Post # 19
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t respond. That’s quite childish of her.

Post # 20
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2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would leave it at that. Especially if you are limited on space, I would be happy for a decline

Post # 21
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t respond to the text. BUT this is why you need to invite everyone with their signficant other. If you have limited room or budget, then you need to cut your guest list to the point where everyone invited can invite a SO, even if the relationship began later in your planning process. This is also why you need to ask your friends if they are in relationships.

Post # 22
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Nope, don’t waste any more time on her

Post # 23
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MidwestBride2012:  That’s the ideal but sometimes, to be fair to the OP, it’s extremely difficult to do this. I think I’d rather have friends/family there than less friends/family and a bunch of +1’s i’d never met.

Post # 24
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7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

A “Thank for letting me know; you’ll be missed!” should suffice!  It’s her loss – but I do know people who get miffed they can’t bring a +1.  🙁

Post # 25
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814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’d reply just toacknowledge that you got her message, and so there’s NO chance of a misunderstanding later.

 

I really can’t understand why adults can’t spend half a day aawy from their SO.. little silly IMO.

Post # 26
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yeah like PPs have said – you don’t have to respond, but if you do it should just be a short & sweet “sorry you can’t make it!” She’s probably hoping that you’ll change your mind & let her bring her boyf if she declines. Forget her!

Post # 27
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3306 posts
Sugar bee

WowWow, she is rude.

Post # 28
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1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

look at it this way she solved the problem for you that sure weeded out good friends from acquaintances, now you can hang with your real friends 

no need to pursue it further, unless you reeeealllly want her there

 

 we had a small party of 54 only spouses and fiances my friends understood, don’t sweat it

Post # 29
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1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

let it go. no response needed.  if you respond it will open a can of worms so it’s best to leave it as is.

Post # 30
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2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

*sigh* There’s always at least one.

Let it go. Or just respond with a polite: Thanks for letting us know. We’ll miss you.

 

Post # 31
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3667 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You should respond “K”

Just kidding… kind of…

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