(Closed) Should I return a wedding gift from a now Ex-Friend?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
14658 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My thought is to cool it.  If you can admit this is partially true with the wedding planning lately, why are you mad at her for feeling that way, at least she waited until after the wedding to let it out and didnt stress you out before hand.  Regarding the gift, I really dont know what to do about that if you were to end the friendship.  Seems you both are overreacting.

Post # 5
3942 posts
Honey bee

@wedinbos: Unless there is more to this story, I would talk to your friend and work out the problem. Seems like a silly reason to end the friendship.


Post # 6
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Seems like a really silly thing to end a friendship over.  Sometimes when we are planning we become so consumed that we lose perspective about what is going on around us.  She may just be hurt.  Could she have handled it better?  Sure.  Do we always handle things logically when we are upset?  No.

If she really is your friend, I would reach out and apologize & explain things.  Be the bigger person.  I can’t imagine dropping a friendship for something so petty.

Post # 7
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Forget the gift and try to work this out with your friend. Try to see it from her point of view and honestly everyone has a bad day once in a while so you can’t just defriend her for one insensitive comment. If she’s a good enough friend to attend your wedding, give you a generous wedding gift and even be invited to your bday celebration in the first place I think you owe her at least that.

Post # 8
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If it were a good friend of mine, I’d apologyze even if I’d done nothing wrong and then try to figure out what was really making my friend hurt and lash out.

Post # 9
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PPs.  Talk to her instead of juist giving up on her imediately. 

Post # 10
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Cool off first. See if you feel ready to continue the friendship. If you do, then do so. Keep the money.

Post # 11
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

She gave you the gift as just that..a gift. It’d be weird to return it in my opinion…It would just be a blatant sign that you don’t want to be friends! And honestly, maybe the bees before me are right; talk to her about it. She could just be feeling left out since you’re all happily hitched and now around much anymore 🙂

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