(Closed) Should I Return E-Ring?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
7960 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@talkderbytome:  it’s a beautiful ring.  love the setting.  i can see that the centre stone is very yellow.  the problem is that the setting is a far better colour grade than your centre stone.  alone, the main stone is fine but not with a D-F grade setting.  i am surprised that the associate did not mention something so important to you. 

definitely return to the store and replace the centre stone.  i would be heading there asap to see what stones they have in stock.  if they have something appropriate, they can have it ready for your proposal.  if not, wait until after the proposal.

Post # 18
4 posts

I think you should go ahead with the proposal and then return with her to pick a new stone after. No point in losing the deposits you’ve already put down on the proposal in addition to having to fix the center stone. The most important thing to her will be that y’all are engaged at the end of the day so she probably won’t even care that you want to change the center stone. Who knows, she might even want to keep it! I think your best bet though is to propose as planned, then replace the stone later. Good luck! The ring is gorgeous! 

Post # 19
4144 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can definitely see the yellow. IMO I unless Tuesday holds particularly special meaning or you have a huge set up planned I would get a new diamond that you are happy with before proposing. If it bothers you enough to be losing sleep over you won’t be able to fully enjoy what is supposed to be a wonderful event. And you can’t get a redo 

Post # 20
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

That stone looks like a “K” or maybe even an “L”. Those are best in solitaires. No need really to have it appraised, it will still look yellow after you’ve spent the money to do so. I would talk to the jeweler, tell them your predicament and see how long it would take them to sitch the stone out. It is a very pretty ring!

ETA: I wouldn’t propose until the ring was “just right” in your eyes. Whatever you have in your hand that day (even if it’s a rubber band) is the thing she will be attached to.


Post # 22
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s a very pretty ring but I don’t think that’s an H. It’s sounds like you we’re baited and switched. 

Post # 23
4394 posts
Honey bee

I’m going to disagree that you should propose with it as is. If I was proposed to and saw a gorgeous ring in the box but then realized the center stone was visibly yellow and I had to part with my ring for who knows how long, I would be really upset. Everyone will ask her to see the ring and then she will have to explain over and over where it is, which kind of sucks some of the fun out of it! Unless Tuesday is a really, really important day, I would wait. 


Now as far as the ring, it sounds like the jeweler switched the center stone after you picked it. When it was loose, did you look at it from the side? That is when you will see the most color. So if you examined it closely and it didn’t look yellow at all, and now it looks like that, I bet they switched it, which is super shady. Now, it’s possible the halo is making it appear more yellow, but the halo melee is probably F-H which really shouldn’t show that much of a difference in a true H, and I’m guessing you would have noticed it loose unless you’re really obvlivious to color, which you’re not because you can see it now. 


Likely they will say you can exchange it for a different stone of better stats (and from a reputable lab) but it will either be smaller, thus not fitting in the setting right, or cost you more (which may be ok with you..?). I would talk to a manager tomorrow and explain the whole situation before deciding what to do. If they try to give you the run around, I would ask for a refund and use a vendor that seems more trustworthy. So sorry this happened to you!


Post # 25
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

EGL international H is very different from a GIA/AGS “H” and will be at a minimum 2-3 shades lower in color that’s why it is suggested to pay a bit more to get a better certified stone to ensure you are actually getting what you paid for


Post # 26
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@talkderbytome:  I would not propose with this ring. Like you say, she may damage it or you may not be able to return it after. I would take it back ASAP.

Personally, I’d rather be proposed to without a ring than be given a ring that has to be changed. That would just suck being given something only to have it taken away. And then I would feel bad worrying that you were taken advantage of, and it would ruin how I felt about my ring.

As PP have said, it certainly doesn’t look like GIA H.

Post # 27
25 posts
  • Wedding: August 1994

Return the ring and get one that is all you want it to be or you will regret it.

Post # 29
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@talkderbytome:  I wouldn’t say you were taken advantage of IMO.. Did they tell you it was a GIA certified stone or did you assume? Also like I said the stone looks yellow bc of the halo, when you saw the loose stone it probably didn’t look yellow bc it was standing alone. 


The topic ‘Should I Return E-Ring?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors