Post # 77
I think it makes a statement of what’s most important to you… If you do it with out her… You guys can take a fabulous vacation together as a group anytime. You’re getting married!! the people who love you want to be a part of it. Years down the road when your grandma isn’t around anymore will you miss her from your wedding photos? And your memory of that day?
Traveling at that age is is draining, I imagine it will wear her out. She may not have the best immune system and just the travel may cause her to get a minor cold.
Post # 78
I don’t have any other ideas but to change the wedding to a venue that can accomodate your grandma. That of course is my very personal opinion. I call my grandma is my greatest treasure and I adore her. Years from now, you’d be glad you had your grandmother at your wedding and that I can guarantee.
Post # 79
@jessiebean: Could you just talk to her and see if there are any things you could provide that would help her feel less afraid? Not, like, “Grandma, what can I do to convince you?” More like, “I so desperately want to get married on the beach, and I so desperately want you to be there. I don’t know what to do because it seems like I can’t have both. Do you have any ideas at all? Is there anything we could do that would make you feel more comfortable about the traveling?”
Post # 80
@Jijitattoo: I never tried to convince her. I would never ever make her feel uncomfortable. I am just going to do two weddings. One small one with her and one at the beach later.
Thanks for the suggestion though!
Post # 81
Someone made the comment that is not about the location but being surrounded by loved ones that make the marriage.
I’d say the opposite for my case. When loved ones don’t really care either way, then it turns into being about the location! Location all the way. So I’d do the Destination Wedding.