(Closed) Should I say anything to her?

posted 6 years ago in Career
  • poll: Should I say/or do something next time I see her to let her know I'm wishing her well?
    Yes, say or do something, but don't make a big production out of it. : (21 votes)
    49 %
    No, let her pretend like you didn't see anything. : (22 votes)
    51 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think you should probably mind your own business. ๐Ÿ™ Maybe buy her a brownie from the vending machine and leave it on her desk when she goes to the washroom. 

    If she tried to hide it from you, she probably doesn’t want to draw attention.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Others may disagree, but I think it never hurts, and often helps, to let someone know you’re thinking good thoughts for them.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Honestly, I would appreciate a coworker caring. Maybe get her somethign small and let her know you’re thinking of her.

    Post # 6
    Member
    12 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think she may be embarrassed that you saw her, and its silly to pretend it didnt happen. Let her know that you dont expect her to say anything, but if she needs someone she is welcome to speak with you about it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4693 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’d say that totally depends on the kind of person she is.  I would be so much more grateful if you let me pretend it never happened because people seeing me cry is mortifying to me.

    Post # 8
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I have cried at work and I would not feel comfortable if anyone badgered me about it. Especially if I was caught. I would let it go and see if she says anything…

    Post # 9
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    No. I’ve cried at work before and I really appreciate it when people don’t ask too many questions. It’s hard enough crying at work (I feel weak and it’s worse because I’m a girl and people think women in the workforce cry anyways).

    If you’re going to do anything, I’d ask her if she’d like to grab a drink with you after work or if she’d like to grab sodas together during your break.

    Post # 10
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    2808 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I was hesitant to vote “yes” on the poll because it leaves so much open to interpretation, but I think a small gesture would be nice as long as it didn’t draw any extra attention to her.

    Maybe a sticky note on her desk when she leaves to go to the bathroom? She’s probably a little embarassed and it was professional of her not to throw her personal problems around the office, but I think a small ” hey, let me know if I can do anything…hope your day gets better” might go a long way.

    Post # 12
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    2216 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have cried at work and have been embarrassed about getting caught.  But, I was grateful that my ex-coworker caught me, and took me on a walk.  She didn’t pressure me into telling her what was wrong; she was just there for me, which was a nice feeling.

    ETA: I was close to my ex-coworker, so that probably made a difference.

    Post # 13
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @MissBoPeep:  “I would be so much more grateful if you let me pretend it never happened”

    I agree.  This would be me too if someone saw me crying at work.

    Post # 14
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    2808 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @GreenEyedMoon:  I think a quick, no-pressure email would be totally appropriate. You don’t have to get all sappy, just a “check-in” to let her know not to be embarassed and that you’re there if she needs anything. I would appreciate that and I’m really embarassed when people see me cry. Sounds very professional and non-invasive.

    Post # 16
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    3583 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I was that girl last week.  If I am by myself and crying into my computer with ipod buds in my ears, I want to be left alone.  What did help was an email from my colleague basically saying ‘hi, I just wanted to let you know that I am here if you need to talk. ๐Ÿ™‚ ‘ and it was perfect.

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