(Closed) Should I say something?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I say something?
    No, you were the rude one to snoop : (6 votes)
    4 %
    No, its not your job to stop their rudeness : (29 votes)
    20 %
    Yes, tell them they are breaking etiquette : (43 votes)
    30 %
    Sorta, slip in a conversation about how you're reading up about etiquette for your wedding : (61 votes)
    43 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Oh my god. I cannot BELIEVE they would write that! I am lying through my teeth in our e-gift thank you notes about how everything is amazing and matches our house perfectly when we’re actually selling it all on ebay because nothing came with gift receipts (and really – how many different bowls can one couple own). Good lord!

    Post # 4
    7695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    OMG how could they be so ignorant to say that!?! YIKES! I would definitely say something to them!

    Post # 5
    5496 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Oh wow, I would say something, too! Yikes..can’t even imagine receiving a thank-you card like that! That’s extremely rude. Does your mother know what is written?

    Post # 6
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Wow.  They might not care enough to change it.  But I would definitely tell them that you looked at their thank you notes to get ideas ofr stationary for your wedding, and noticed what they wrote.  I’d outright tell them that a lot of people would be offended.  They don’t need to know what was done with their gift.

    Post # 7
    1105 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I can’t even believe that people have no clue as to how rude they are when writing something like that…..and then to top it off, they are very late in sending out thank-you’s.  I think I would rather not even get a thank you, then to have one sent to me stating that they exchanged it for something else.  WOW!!

    Post # 8
    1645 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would maybe say something to your mom. I can’t believe they would actually put that down. EESH.

    Post # 9
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

     SAY SOMETHING for sure! At least you’ll know you tried. Try to be all casual about it, but please for their guest’s sake say smoething!

    Post # 10
    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    WHAAAAAT?! my jaw dropped. that is not ok – please say something! I would be so offended as a guest. Im just shocked that they think its ok to say that!

    Post # 11
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Def. say something to your Mom- right away!

    Post # 12
    1955 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    I think those who suggested talking to your mom have the right idea, no WAY should those go out to guests!! 


    Post # 13
    971 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    If I got a thank you note like that, I’d be shocked at first then I would be LMAO and snarking on it with my friends over how declasse they were!!!!   

    Post # 14
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    What are they, three years old? Even schoolkids know it’s rude to tell someone you don’t like their gift!

    Post # 15
    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Holy crap! Someone needs to say something. I would be appalled if I got a Thank You note that said that. 

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