(Closed) Should I See My Ring Before He Proposes?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
1117 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Girl, you need to chill. Let him surprise you! I didn’t want to see the ring before my husband proposed. 

Post # 3
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

If you can stand it, I would say just wait and have that moment during the proposal.

But, I say this as someone who wanted to wait, swore I would wait, and then totally caved and asked to see it because I couldn’t wait. SO even let me take a bunch of pics of it (not on my finger though) so I can look at it as much as I want via photos. I almost think it has made waiting worse, though, because it’s so pretty I just want it on my finger already!

I also chose the ring and designed it how I wanted it, though, so it’s not like it would have been a total surpise at the proposal anyway.

Post # 4
595 posts
Busy bee

Wait and be surprised! Mine is also somewhere around here, I picked out the setting and the cut and he picked out the stone. But it was online so I’m also dying to see it! But I want to keep the surprise of it. But I know know what you mean! 

Post # 5
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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morethanyesterday :  Hi Bee yes chill out you’re taking the fun out of the surprise haha!

Post # 6
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think you’ll both enjoy the proposal more if you wait and let it be a surprise seeing it for the first time 

Post # 7
9758 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re going to be bummed out when nothing is a surprise. Stop yourself now. 

Post # 8
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I didn’t want to see my engagement ring or know anything about the proposal the only thing that I had said was that I didn’t want a proposal before I graduated form college 

Post # 9
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Be patient and don’t spoil the surprise! You’ll enjoy it so much more 

Post # 11
1360 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

I have seen my ring before the proposal and I think it actually made me more excited because I didn’t want to take it off. So I’m kind of glad in a way I saw it as I’m even more excited now, but it’s also bad because I’m now really impatient to get engaged! 

Post # 12
4034 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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morethanyesterday :  Just let yourself enjoy the surprise! I was not as anxious about it as you are, but it was so amazing to see my ring for the first time on my finger, after saying, “Yes!” and wrapping my arms around hubby. 

Post # 13
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

I think you should let yourself be surprised! In my case, we had my ring custom made and I know every nook and cranny of what I expect the ring to look like. It’s actually being delivered today (EEEEK!) and I did ask my SO to let me see it and try it on before he hides it away until the proposal. I want to see it because I need to make sure the reality of the ring is what I worked with the designr to create, so I know what to look for if something is off. However, it sounds like you already have a decent amount of information about your ring to give you just the right amount of excitement and still have a bit of mystery left over, so try to hand on to that feeling! 

Post # 14
232 posts
Helper bee

“The idea of waiting for something makes it more exciting” 
― Andy Warhol

Wait. You won’t regret it. Give him the joy of seeing you face when he opens that box in front of you…

Post # 15
454 posts
Helper bee

Hopefully he doesn’t make u wait too long. My fiancé and I designed my ring together. I knew when it was coming. I raced home to see it. lol. Luckily he already had it in his mind to propose that afternoon so I didn’t have to wait. 

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