Post # 1
We received a gift in the mail last week from a couple who’s husband is in our wedding party. He’s an old friend of my fiance’s and they got us a $30 beverage dispenser from our registry. I have a feeling that they will be giving us cash at the wedding, cause I don’t think this couple would only spend $30 combined on our gift. My fiance went to their wedding without me last year and gave them $200! I think they may have sent an early gift since they thought it’s something we could use this summer.
So my question is, do I send them a thank you note now, or wait until after the wedding in case they give us another gift? Is it ok to send two thank you notes for wedding gifts?
Post # 3
I’d wait until after the wedding. Just in case. But, I wouldn’t assume he’ll get you another gift or cash. Some people in the bridal party assume they’re spending enough on the tux, parties, travel, lodging, etc. and don’t do much more.
Post # 4
Thanks for your reply 🙂
Actually, that’s true that the groomsman might feel like he’s spending enough to be in the wedding. I think all the groomsmen are even chipping in to get him a big present for his bachelor party!
So if that’s the case.. should I send a thank you note now? Or still wait till after the wedding?
Post # 5
I agree with no assuming that there will be more to the gift. I still say wait until after the wedding, though.
Post # 6
You should send a thank you note when you receive a gift. If you end up getting another gift from that couple, then you can just send another thank you note.
I know that some people believe that you don’t have to send your thank you notes until after the wedding, but I just think it is better to send them as you receive gifts because:
1. it lets the giver know that you received the gift and appreciate it
2. it keeps you from having to write a ton of notes all at once
Post # 7
You should send the thank you note now. If he gets you an additional gift or gives you money you should send a second thank you note later. For all the reasons that SeptBride stated!!
Post # 8
Yes – send the note now. And, don’t be surprised if that IS the present! Meaning, write the note as if it is.
Post # 9
I’d send it now. We’ve been receiving wedding gifts from our registry since April. Everytime we get one, we send a thank you note right away. It not only lets the gifter know that you received it, but it’s one less thing you have to do after the wedding. We’ve also received 3 different gifts (in 3 different months) from the same couple (I guess they just love to shop!) and each time have sent a different thank you card thanking for the specific gift we received that time. I would definitely send the thank you out right away.