(Closed) Should I send a thank you note now or after wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d wait until after the wedding.  Just in case.  But, I wouldn’t assume he’ll get you another gift or cash.  Some people in the bridal party assume they’re spending enough on the tux, parties, travel, lodging, etc. and don’t do much more. 

Post # 5
7152 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with no assuming that there will be more to the gift. I still say wait until after the wedding, though.

Post # 6
1820 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You should send a thank you note when you receive a gift.  If you end up getting another gift from that couple, then you can just send another thank you note.

I know that some people believe that you don’t have to send your thank you notes until after the wedding, but I just think it is better to send them as you receive gifts because:

1. it lets the giver know that you received the gift and appreciate it

2. it keeps you from having to write a ton of notes all at once

Post # 7
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You should send the thank you note now. If he gets you an additional gift or gives you money you should send a second thank you note later. For all the reasons that SeptBride stated!!

Post # 8
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Yes – send the note now.  And, don’t be surprised if that IS the present!  Meaning, write the note as if it is.  

Post # 9
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’d send it now.  We’ve been receiving wedding gifts from our registry since April.  Everytime we get one, we send a thank you note right away.  It not only lets the gifter know that you received it, but it’s one less thing you have to do after the wedding.  We’ve also received 3 different gifts (in 3 different months) from the same couple (I guess they just love to shop!) and each time have sent a different thank you card thanking for the specific gift we received that time.  I would definitely send the thank you out right away.

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