Post # 1
So, I have a friend I have known for almost 10 years. She lives in a different country and I haven’t seen her or talked to her in a few years, but she will always hold such a special place in my heart. We were so very, very close. She is pregnant and I want to send her something for the baby….I can’t really afford it but it’s not crazy expensive and I will be OK financially, but I don’t know. I have tried to reach out to her a few times and she never gets back to me or makes it seem like she really wants my friendship. But being that I have known her and her husband for so long, I would like to do this. Thoughts?
Post # 2
If you can’t really afford it, haven’t seen/talked to her in years, and she doesn’t respond to your efforts to reach out – I would say no, do not send her a baby gift.
Post # 3
newbeeme7 : how about just a card?
Post # 4
It sounds like despite knowing each other for quite some time, she has happily allowed the friendship to fade.
What are your reasons for wanting to send a gift? What is the purpose in doing so?
Post # 5
I would just go with your gut on this one bee. If you feel moved to send her something, then send her something and dont’ stress about it any further. It doesn’t have to be expensive – a children’s book or a onesie would be just fine!
But if you don’t want to send her something, then don’t. There’s no obligation.
Post # 6
Eh, it sounds like your friendship has faded. I made the mistake of sending a baby gift to a high school friend and I never once got a thank you or ever heard from that friend again. I honestly regret the money I wasted. Especially if you’re on a tight budget it may not be the best way to spend your money. I like the idea of sending a card though! Do you think she would send you a gift if you were having a chiild? If not it may be best to hold back from giving no matter how generous that may be of you!