(Closed) Should I send out Save the dates?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should we send save the dates?
    YES! : (19 votes)
    44 %
    nah : (18 votes)
    42 %
    doesn't matter either way : (6 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Send them!

    I sent out STD postcards – $23 for 100 postcards, then the price of postage (29 cents each?). I didn’t need the full 100- but I thought the price was good. Now I have lots of extras for scrap books and things.

    For super cheap, you can also send out an email with a cute DIY picture of the two of you with the date photoshoped on it? That counts as an STD too!

    Post # 4
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    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    I don’t think they are necessary. You sound like you don’t want to do them. I did them because I wanted to, but I doubt it will affect attendance.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We didn’t do them and I think they’re unnecessary except in instances like you stated.  Save-The-Date Cards are a fairly new thing – 5 years ago, no one had ever seen/heard of them (at least where I’m from).

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We didn’t do them.  Sending them really locks you in on your guest list.  Then if costs are higher than anticipate, you have no wiggle room to invite fewer people.

    Honestly, there is a very small group of people who would be likely to save up for your wedding.  If those people already know your wedding will be sometime in January, I don’t think Save-The-Date Cards are necessary.

    Post # 8
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Since your wedding will be after a major holiday I think it would be a good idea to send them out. If you have any out of town guests I’m sure they will appreciate the heads up so that they know to set some money aside for travel. My budget is usually really tight around Christmas so any heads up about extra events that time of year is a plus in my book!

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think you should go ahead and send them.  You can also do a very inexpensive STD – check out what you can make on Vistaprint.  You can always find coupon codes for their site, and you can do a decent amount to personalize/design them.

    Post # 10
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    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My Fiance and I decided against it. Our wedding is in the summer so we worried a bit about people planning vacations, but all of our relatives know and we make sure to remind them at family gatherings (usually they ask first anyway). Our closest friends are in our wedding party, so all the people most important to us know by word of mouth. It’s just an extra expense, and I feel like if they’re close enough to you that you absolutely need them to be at your wedding, they already have it marked on the calendar.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I said yes, send them. But I only sent Save-The-Date Cards to my out of towners and NONE to my in towners. I knew the Out of Town people I wanted to invite and that way they can book a flight. If you send them to the in town people, you are locked in with the guest list. So I just recommend sending them to your Out of Town people, just so they can prepare.

    Post # 12
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    2053 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We sent them and posted our website on them. They served a purpose beyond just announcing the date because the website lists registry info., directions, things to do in the area and hotel info. for rooms we’ve blocked. If your guests would benefit from such information at all, send them. We had ours printed locally for about $25. for 60, and then $0.29 stamps. We also sent some via email.

    Post # 13
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    822 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I don’t think they are necessary and agree with @galloway111:.  All your closest friends and family will already know the date or at least the month you are getting married in.

    We didn’t do them but then again hardly anyone does in NZ.  However we did send our invites out 3 days ago and our wedding is still 5 months away.  This was mainly because we have a huge amount of people living overseas we invited, most are coming home for Christmas so works out well. 

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I had never heard of save the dates until that one episode of The Office…

    I’ve only ever received them for one wedding.

    They seemed like a waste of money to me so rather than send them out, Fiance and I are just sending our invites 2 and a half months before the wedding… that should give everyone enough time to plan/save up or whatever. If you’re concerned about Out of Town guests I’d just shoot them an email or a phone call and let them know when you’re planning to have the wedding and tell them invites will be out a bit before.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee

    Since it’s less than 6 months away, I don’t think there’s a need to send STDS. I would instead be sure to get actual invites out early. Maybe send the invites in November with a RSVP deadline in advance of the holidays so people have time to respond before getting Christmas cards and such and you will also have time to follow up.

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