Post # 1
I have been engaged for 10 months now and we have changed our wedding date several times. Originally we wanted a wedding spring/summer of 2013 so I bought my dress pretty early. I wanted a tea length gown. Even with changing our dates and venues, my dress will work everything we have planned. It’s the Oleg Cassini gown from David’s Bridal. Well, one night I was playing a joke on my fiance and showed him some pretty horrendous dresses saying that’s the style I went with, but then we came across one and he actually liked it! I decided to show him some normal dresses to try and see if he would like mine without actually showing it to him. I showed him all long ones at first, and he liked them. I threw in a tea length one (actually one I tried on but decided against). He HATED it.. I asked why, and he said because it was short, and he just didnt like it. I am now worried that he is going to hate my dress. All my bridesmaids and friends say don’t show it to him because he will love whatever I wear on our wedding day, but it is his wedding too, and I want him to like the dress just as much as I do. With all this being said.. should I show him my dress, or just forget about it and know he will find me beautiful the day of no matter what dress I am in?
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Don’t show him. If he says he doesn’t like it you will be completely devastated. He will love whatever you wear that day. You will look amazing, and he will not even be thinking of the length.
Post # 4
@AlwaysLoverly: Don’t show him…. you don’t want to show him now without you being all done up and emotional. Plus, he will love what you look like on the day of no matter what you wear. Try not to over-think it. You’ll look great! Just make sure you get some great shoes to show off!
Post # 5
+1 for PP. Guys think they will or wont like something, but don’t really know until they see it on. Plus, he’s marrying you that day, he’ll love it!
Post # 6
I showed FI a wide variety of dresses prior to going shopping. I wanted to get an idea of what he liked or hated, so I didn’t chose something he despised. One of the pics I showed him that he liked I actually ended up picking as my dress (he doesn’t know this), so I know he’s going to think it’s perfect for me.
Do you LOVE the dress you have? If you do and you feel beautiful in it, he will love it, too. Once he sees you that day, he won’t be able to stop thinking about you and how gorgeous you look. I wouldn’t show him the dress, partly in fear of him insulting it and partly because it’s tradition (unless you decide to get another dress).
Post # 7
Don’t show him!!! I know where you are coming from though. I did the same thing just before I bought this dress. He knew right away what he said was not what I wanted to hear and backtracked…. (I did have a bit of a tantrum… He said I wear that style all the time (kinda maxi dress style) and therefore not special)
so I showed him it… He was amazed how stunning the dress was and hoit great it would look on. He really beat himself up because he realised at that point that actually, it will always be special on the day…. No matter what.
Ive gone gone totally opposite of that (mermaid) and I don’t care what he thinks…. I know he will love it… It’s a dangerous game to play that we did… Men just don’t have a clue! Sounds like you love it so go with your gut!!!
good luck! x
Post # 8
I was flipping through a David’s Bridal catalog. He saw a particular dress and hated it. I went to try on a few dresses and took pictures. Which one was his favorite out of the bunch? The one he had hated on the model. LOL
I think you’ll be fine without showing him. Dresses look different on everyone.
Post # 9
I have shown my FI different dresses i like or pics of me trying some on. I wanted to get his opinion and he has great taste. I’ve narrowed it down and now he’s out of the loop! He won’t see my final pick until the day we get married 🙂
Post # 10
Thank you for the opinions! I think you all are right and I shouldn’t show him. I love my dress and would be devastated if he hated it.