Post # 1
Looking for some honest opinions since if I do decide to go through with the idea, I don’t plan on telling many people about it.
I’m not sure if this is a completely silly idea so hear me out. There’s a 0% chance I’d be able to ACTUALLY sing live at my own wedding. It wasn’t until probably 3 years into our relationship that I finally sang in front of my Fiance lol. My anxiety/nerves just get the best of me. I finally entered a few singing contests about a year ago and placed 2nd in one of them. the days leading up to the performances I was consumed by anxiety so I definitely won’t commit to singing in front of everyone at our wedding. I *can* sing (according to the people in my life lol)…I just lack confidence and I wouldn’t want to put that pressure on myself.
So I had the idea of recording a song in a studio and having it play during the ceremony as the bridal party entered. I wouldn’t want to walk down the isle to a song being played that I’m singing, as that sounds a bit narcissistic to me (not saying it IS – I just think I’d feel weird doing it myself), but I’m not sure if the idea in general is weird or not. My cousin actually had a recording played at her wedding of her speaking her vows to her husband before she walked down the isle and it was beautiful. Everyone cried and I remember thinking how sweet and unique it was.
So tell me what you think, bees. Curious to hear everyone’s opinion about it. We just got engaged and are planning on a Summer 2020 wedding so it’s not like I have to make a decision anytime soon but I like thinking about different ideas as a break from the trecherous task of contacting what seems like 100 venues lol.
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
hmmm I once went to a wedding where the bride and groom sang to each other during the ceremony.
Honestly it was pretty cringey but at the end of the day who cares – they were happy and it’s their wedding! I don’t actually judge them for it I just found it awkward.
Do whatever will make you happy 🙂
Post # 3
kittymoon777 : I get uncomfortable seeing or hearing other people sing outside of karaoke and professional concerts. But I don’t know how many people share my opinion and if it makes you happy, do it. It’s your wedding, your day, your party.
Post # 4
jayrock : HAHA I’m definitely worried about coming off as cringey on my wedding day. I definitely wouldn’t be able to sing live in front of people. I appreciate your honest opinion because I do not want my guests thinking it’s weird.
Post # 5
I sang to my husband at our reception, and I didn’t tell him ahead of time. It was actually one of my favorite memories of the wedding because he cried (and I don’t think he’s ever cried happy tears before). It was incredibly special for the 2 of us. That being said, I waited until the 2nd half of the reception when only the die hard people were still there, and I almost didn’t go through with it because I felt so weird about it. I also want to note that I have never had stage fright in my entire life and have sung professionally throughout my career, so if you already have anxiety about it, it may be way worse!
But yeah, ultimately I think it was a really wonderful moment and if you think your husband would find it special, go for it.
Post # 6
Iʻd cringe but itʻs YOUR day, not mine.
Post # 7
downonmulberry : LOL I understand and I appreciate your honesty! I know I shouldn’t care what people will think, but I do so I definitely wanted to hear what everyone on the bee thought!!
Post # 8
FWIW, maybe it pays to know the audience. My SIL and her now husband had their first dance to a song that my SIL did a cover of and recorded for the wedding. The family appreciates it because they all know and support her singing. I thought it was a bit…conceited but like I said the family loved it and it obviously meant a lot to the couple.
Post # 9
If i’m being honest, i’d find it really cringey.
Post # 10
If you wanna sing on your wedding day, then SIIIIIIIIIING! Haterz gonna hate.
Post # 11
jillianjigz : Awww that’s so sweet that he cried! Good for you for being able to actually go through with it. I definitely wouldn’t have the guts to sing live at my wedding so I thought a recorded song might be nice buttttttt it seems like the general consensus on that is cringefest so I may have to just forget that idea haha. FWIW, I would love attending a wedding where the bride or groom sang so I think it’s really awesome what you did!!!!
Post # 12
danakxox : beevincent18 : LMAO I’m laughing so hard at how many people think it would be a cringefest! I’m so glad I asked on here hahah and I do appreciate everyone’s honesty!
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
kittymoon777 : My friend’s husband did exactly what you’re thinking about doing – he surprised her (and everyone) during the reception with a slideshow of their favorite pictures with him singing their song in the background. Only he is not a singer and was horribly off key. It was SO cringey in the moment (longest 3 minutes ever) and even now, almost 2 years later, we think of that moment every time we hear the song on the radio. So unless your voice is amazing and you’re confident when recording, I wouldn’t even think of it. It could be amazing or it could be one of the most memorable wedding moments for all of the wrong reasons.
Post # 14
kittymoon777 : we attended a wedding were the bride recorded herself singing for their first dance. I thought it was super cringey but it wasn’t my wedding day. I also didn’t think she could actually sing so it wasn’t that great to listen to.
Those close to you probably won’t think it’s cringey and don’t worry about grumpy, soulless people like myself.
Post # 15
Beyonce didn’t sing at her wedding but I hear it still turned out alright 🙃