Should I sing at my own wedding?

posted 2 months ago in Music
Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

We went to a wedding when the groom sung Ava Maria to his wife during the ceremony.  He used to be in a choir and was very very good

Post # 62
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

kittymoon777 :  I’m a music teacher. If you want some honest feedback, I’d be glad to listen to a recording of you singing.

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

Not even a professional musician should perform at his/her own wedding. You have an absolutely captive audience, and your performance is not what they signed up for.

It looks vain and show-off-y–and I would be among those dying of embarrassment for you. An amateur–an amateur shouldn’t perform in public at all.

Performing for an audience implies that you think your performance will be good enough to give them considerable pleasure. That’s quite a belief. Think of what it says (in public, to all your nearest and dearest) about your ego.

And then there’s the question of your talent and professionalism–

But, to end where I began, not even a professional should perform at his or her own wedding. That’s not what your captive audience is there for. 

Post # 71
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

cassandra7 :  I disagree. I believe that the guests are there to witness and support the love you and your partner have for each other. If you want to express that love and commitment by singing, and it will give your new spouse pleasure, why not. It’s only one song, not an entire concert. I think it’s all about how it’s done. For example, I love Lea Salonga’s song (it’s on YouTube. Sure, she’s a pro, but I didn’t think it came across as show-offy at all).

I know a lot about dancing. In general I cringe when I see choreographed first dances. But I have seen them work sometimes, and even if I think it’s cringing, who am I to take away the joy the married couple have had in taking lessons together/learning something new together/having a memorable moment for them? I view singing in a similar way.

Post # 72
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Blushing bee

My friend sang a hymn while walking down the aisle. I’ll be honest, it was awful. I think we all died of embarassment … but it was an Irish wedding and we’d be quite strong on the cringe and shame for something like that. Her husband is American and his friends and family thought it was beautiful and touching, while all of the Irish side wanted to die of the second-hand shame for her, so we are probably just terrible people.

Post # 73
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m with you. So what if some people think it’s cringey? I find a lot of things people do in their weddings cringey…over the top vows, matchy matchy bridesmaid dresses, the garter toss. But it’s not my wedding so idgaf if people want to do those things.

As for “that’s not what the audience is there for” – it’s 5 min of the night. Grab another free drink and get a life. Whether you find it cringey or not, This is not something to be outraged over  🙄 :  

secondtimer18 :  

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