Post # 1
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248 posts
Helper bee
5 days until my 3 year anniversary with my SO and 5 days until we leave for our cruise!
I now really don’t think that he will propose during this trip. But there is a slight possibility. I am incredibly tempted to stop in (in the next few days) to the jewelry store where we previously went ring shopping. They have a form on file there that lists my ring info. They promised me that they would call me before throwing it out (they said they keep them on file for 2-3 months). It has been just over 3 months since they first wrote up that form. I am tempted to stop in the store, ask to see my ring, and if they go to pull the form and it is not there then I can assume that he bought the ring!
I have zero patience and I just want to know if I am getting any closer to engagement! I don’t think it would ruin the surprise overall if I did this, because there is still no guarantee that he would propose on the trip even if he has already bought the ring. However, for some reason I just have this feeling that I shouldn’t stop in the store. 🙁 Would you do it just to calm down a bit?
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
DON”T DO IT!!! I’m not sure how your Fiance is, but if I did something like this, I know my husband woudl be pissed and hurt that I was “checking up on him”. Its not about ruining the surprise, its about respecting your FIs decision of when and how to propose to you
Post # 4
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375 posts
Helper bee
I vote no–either way it could end badly. Either you find out that he has, and he finds out because something slips out or you find out he hasn’t yet and you start your vacation disappointed.
As a self-confessed snoop, myself, (and he knows this about me, we joke about it often) I suggest taking deep breaths and enjoying your vacation. Hope for the best but don’t count on it, just in case.
Post # 5
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362 posts
Helper bee
DON’T DO IT! The surprise will be so worth the wait! I was COMPLETELY surprised when my Fiance proposed (so much so that I told him to get up and stop bullshitting me!) and I wouldn’t trade that feeling for anything in the world.
Post # 6
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5422 posts
Bee Keeper
I say no. But I snooped so I’m a bad example. It’s so hard not too.
Post # 7
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48 posts
Newbee
NO!!! As a former snooper, I can tell you that you’ll be very disappointed if the form is still there. Don’t do it. I had to stop snooping every time my hopes were up because it hurts too much to be let down like that..
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
don’t do it- because even if the form isn’t there—- assuming he has the ring just isn’t good for either of you- go on your trips and have fun and of course, try not to get your hopes up. you don’t want to ruin the trip
Post # 9
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1566 posts
Bumble bee
I have to agree with everyone else…and DON’T DO IT!!! Stay strong!! It will happen! Have a great time on your cruise!
Post # 10
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248 posts
Helper bee
Thanks everyone. I knew that I shouldn’t, and you’ve helped convince me not to do it!
I’m looking forward to my cruise and I am not expecting a proposal during this trip. It’s disappointing, but I’ve come to terms with it already and I am now just excited for vacation!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
No- dont snoop because if he does have it for you, you will ruin it for yourself and for him. Please for your sake dont…