Post # 1
I’m putting this in Newlyweds just cause I’m a newlywed and we need more variety here!:-)
So, I’ve wanted a pair of louboutins for years. I’m a frugal person– I buy inexpensive clothes, but I am a shoe fanatic. I buy shoes at places like DWS and Bakers. 🙂 But… I can’t stop looking at loubies online or in stores. I desperately wanted them for my wedding, we went to the flagship store in Paris on our Honeymoon to just look–you get the idea. I don’t own a pair because I keep balking at the cost. And knockoffs aren’t an option– I don’t want them unless they are real. 🙂 I keep talking myself out of getting them because when I have the finances, I always think I could take a trip with that money!
I just filed my taxes(separate for the last year, because we just got married), and the return will be more than enough to pay for the Louboutins I want– with money left over. We’re not hurting for money, but we’re not rolling in it by any means. I haven’t gotten a raise in 3 years! My husband suggested I buy the shoes, but I still am hesitant! I worry that people that know me will secretly judge me for wearing such expensive shoes. I *would* wear them–I wear my Jessica simpson black pumps a lot! And 2 years ago I bought a pair of Anderson bean boots that were 450 without a second thought because I’d wanted them for a long time… whats a few hundred more, right? 🙂 I guess I have a double standard for myself, because I wear the boots for work all the time. What are y’all’s thoughts? I wondered if anyone else struggles with wanting to buy a frivolous luxury like me. 🙂
And– Here they are. 🙂
Post # 3
I think splurging every once in awhile is great. For me, if I buy Manolos, Loubs, etc, I tend to buy standout shoes. But if those are what you feel wonderful in, and you love them, go for it.
Post # 4
It doesn’t sound like you are a big spender, and sometimes you deserve to buy yourself a present. Even more, if hubs is on board too I say go for it and don’t spend even one second feeling bad about it.
Post # 5
You’ve wanted them for a long time, you have the money, and it’s not like you do this every day. Plus, you’d be helping the economy 🙂
GO FOR IT!!!
Post # 6
If it’s something you will get a lot of use out of, I would say go for it. Also, if you say that you don’t need the money for other things and you can afford it then do it. BUT…if you guys are saving for something big, or can really use that money for something else then I would hold off. But they are cute shoes, and they are your basic black that can go with everything. I could see why you’re torn.
By any chance, just out of curiousity were they cheaper in Paris?
Post # 7
Buy them. That is a classic shoe that you will be able to wear for YEARS! And it sounds like you are being responsible about your purchase (ie. while it is a splurge you can def. afford it). It never hurts to buy yourself a much coveted present every once in a while 😉
Post # 8
I have a major shopping addiction so I am not the person to ask! But if you love them, you will wear them for years to come, your husband approves, and you can afford them, I think that you can feel justified in buying them. All conditions for buying expensive things are met in my book.
That said, you should also check out those luxury brand discount shopping sites, like gilt groupe. I have never used them, but they offer authentic luxury brand goods on sale and many women looove them. You have to be really aggressive with their sales though because I’ve heard that when stuff goes on sale it flies out the door!
Post # 9
Classic black pumps? Definitely. Plus, expensive shoes are comfy.
I just received a pair of Frye boots for my bday ($400–the most i’ve ever worn on my feet!) and i’m amazed at the comfort. And now that i have them, i TAKE CARE of them. They get saddle soap to preserve the leather and they get softer and softer and the more i want to wear them!
I look at it this way–I own plenty of comfy $40 flats from Nordstroms, cheap socks from Target, inexpensive things around the house. But I always “go nice” on a few staples. I buy nice cardigans (i need them at work and the cheap ones look like hell after a few washes), nice jeans (i can wear them to work and i want non-mom jeans that are cute….and i’m tall….) and purses. Which I only own 4 purses in my whole closet. But they’re Coach and JCrew. BUT, I get my hair colored at the student place for $35-$50/highlight. Normally $120 at a salon. So uh, I “justify” my purchases, too!
If you cheap out in 90% of your life, you can splurge the 10%. If it REALLY bugs you, make a VOW to wear them 3x a week for a month.
I know I can always be more practical with my money but sometimes you need a treat. Make a steak dinner at home twice next month instead of going out if it’ll make you feel better =]
PS I would’ve said it was a “waste” when i was in college. Now that I have a job+paycheck+house it’s really changed my views on spending money!
Post # 10
you are SOOOOOO not alone!!!!! my current vice is Giuseppe Zanotti shoes…I LOVE THEM!
But I always ask myself a couple of questions before I purchase something big…
Can I afford to spend this much money on it?
What would I have done with the money if I didn’t buy this?
What would be the consequence (sp?) of me buying this?
How much would I use this?
How long will it last me?
Is it REALLY worth it?
Will this satisfy my craving? or will I want more?
and a couple more questions I just can’t think if at this time…
and if i’m okay with all my answers, I choose to either buy it or not…I didn’t vote on your poll because I don’t want to tell you whether or not to buy something especially since i’m working with my own shoe-demons 🙂 but hopefully you come you your own conclusion 😉
Post # 11
Buy. Them. And I’m agreeing with your choice — you’ll get a lot of wear out of a pair like that. They’re good for Important Business Stuff and a night out. I’m just like you — I told the boy that I’d wear Old Navy and Ross clothes for the rest of my life if I can always have fabulous shoes. I usually pull $100 out of each paycheck and save up for one item at a time — that way, I can pay in cash (Neiman doesn’t take Visa — the hell??) and it doesn’t feel like *such* a dent in my bank account.
Post # 12
Maybe it’s just me, but I’d feel pretty guilty about buying a $700 pair of shoes for just myself when I could take that money and take an awesome weekend trip with my Fiance or something else that involves the two of you. But I probably wouldn’t ever buy a black pair of $700 shoes, Loubies or not.
But spend the money on what makes you happy, if they are shoes then by all means.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
If you really want to avoid the guilt, definitely sign up for gilt groupe, outnet, etc. They have Louboutin sales every so often and the prices are slashed.
I have to channel suze orman for a second: adjust your withholdings! Ideally you want to get nothing back every year, otherwise it means you’re giving the government an interest free loan!
I’d buy them if I were in your position. But I’m a huge enabler 🙂
Post # 14
I say go for it! AND I am very frugal as well!!
The reason I say do it, is because like you, I really watch my spending and never get anything too exp, all my shoes, clothes, and purses are very reasonably priced. BUT, about 5 years ago I fell in love with these Chanel sunglasses. So I told myself that I would wait 6 months & if I still wanted them as much as I did then, then I would buy them.
I bought these sunglasses 5 years ago & I still wear them everyday and LOVE the heck out of them. Much like your classic black pump, my classic Chanel sunglasses will never go out of style and I still love them all these years later!! You will find yourself years down the road still loving on those shoes….so treat yourself!! I’m so glad I did!!
Post # 15
I say buy them. You don’t splurge on expensive things all the time, and you should be allowed to once in a while. I do the same thing, but I keep certain guidelines whenever I spend a lot of money on an item – I usually only buy something I can get a lot of use out of. If you buy something too trendy, or in a weird color, it will be hard to use a lot. These shoes are classic, and you can wear them with so many things. Also, look to get the best deal you possibly can on them. Check different stores to see if you can get them cheaper. After you get them, set a time limit for yourself before you are allowed to splurge on another item again!
Post # 16
@verosara, I wish they were cheaper in paris. But alas, they are in Euros… and it added up to costing more too. :-/ My husband felt so bad he couldn’t buy me some though!
@ribbons– this return was bigger than last year because we sold stock to pay for the wedding. 😉 I guess! I double checked it!
Thanks for your thoughts on either side guys! Keep em coming!