(Closed) Should I stand my ground or forgive?

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 17
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@yostoast:

Have you ever watched dateline or 60 min?  If someone threatens to kill you with specifics, STAY AWAY!! 

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My situation is a little like yours but somewhat different. My fiance is the one that is bipolar he doesnt get super bad but he has a daughter… I am also a teacher and his daughter is doing a lot of things that I dont agree with and want no part in. You have to except him at your wedding if there is a reason your fiance wantshim there then he probably needs to be. Hes allowing to give him another chance and maybe you should too. Even though at times I dont like what my soon to be step daughter is doing, I cant control her life and I am not about to try. I do know that even now I distance myself from her so she cant bring me down or my future career.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Plus its one night and even though its an important night, you need to respect your fiance then you have the choice of seeing him again. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Stand your ground. I would absolutely not allow that guy to be in your wedding or even invited until he gets himself some help.  Your Fiance is wrong on this and I would insist that he not come if I were you. He has physically threatened you, bipolar or not and that is unacceptable.  

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

Is it out of line to say the only way you would allow him in your wedding is if he was on meds? I know you can’t force someone to take their medication but I would have zero trust in someone like him if he wasn’t and wouldn’t want someone I didn’t trust to be in my wedding. I mean.. it’s not like who called you a bad name or was rude to you he threatened to kill you… and chop you up. That is scary. Someone who was mental unstable who has a history of treatening my life would not be in my wedding or life unless they were medicated or in some kind of treatment program. period.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@mrs.stormylove:  + 1  totally agree with you.  Hope the OP stands her ground!

Post # 23
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1066 posts
Bumble bee

He wants to have his brother as groomsman. The one who threatened to chop you up? True,he was mentally ill but is he ok now. I would have a problem with that…sorry..x

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@tangotots:  FYI, this was posted 2 years ago. The poster isn’t even around anymore.

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