- 6 years ago
I have a friend from high school that I met back up with a few years ago. She is married, as am I. Her and her husband helped mine get a new job where they worked. Her husband no longer is employed there, he found a different job. I am truly greatful for the help getting new employment, it was a big help. She was one of two guests at my wedding.
Well, that is where all my trouble seems to have began. First of all, we had spoken before that when we got married we wouldn’t drink. The day we married she walked in to my living room when we got back from the court house (it was literally noon on a Friday) and breaks out a bottle of Jack and pours my husband a drink. He takes it, and they toast our new engagement. This really left me biting, but I had to drive to take care of my father who is ill, so I let it go.
Well, then in a post I put here, he told me a bunch of things that really should have been discussed before we had married, and I forgave him.
Last week I made the mistake of confiding in her some insecurities I have regard personal health issues and the things he had said, and she just replied “All men are superficial. You just need to let things slide girl, he loves you.” Well, the next morning she makes an appearance about 1 hour after they both get off of work. While she was here, he kept standing up behind me, not anywhere close to me and talking over me, like literally and figuratively. She excused herself and went to the bathroom. When she was gone, I asked him to sit down, as I actually hadn’t seen him all morning. When she returned, he sat down on an ottoman in front of her with his legs apart. They started talking about people and stuff from work. While they were talking she kept moving closer towards him and putting her legs further inbetween his. I was 4 feet away watching this. I said something about it, and she had the audacity to say to me “Sorry chick, we work together and were just having a moment”.
That isn’t even the last of it. Today, my phone service went out, and she couldn’t “reach me” so she bombs my house and cop knocks my door. My husband answers it and immediatly lets her in. She goes right in to how some guy at work asked her out and it made her feel giddy. Then he starts telling her about some woman who keeps trying to flirt with him. When I ask him if he has made any friends he tells me he talks to no one, but has plenty to say when she comes around. He says she is my friend and I need her. Quite frankly, I have been trying to oust her from my existance for years. She is currently in an open marriage, which is no where near my core ideals or values, and he basically is trying to force me to keep her around, as she is my good friend and needs me. He barely speaks to me. He started a third shift job and I totally realize why they call it the suicide shift. I totally feel left out of existance and it cuts me to the core to watch him right in front of me talk to her. There has been other raunchy discussions before around this woman, but it had stopped and was long before we had married. When I try to speak to him about it he says I am over reacting. I am lost… it is painful. He just says I have “bored housewife syndrome” and disregards anything I have to say or how feel.