Post # 17
- Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake
Get out of the relationship. He should be defending you to everyone. Sounds like if you get married, his mom will be running your lives. Sorry you are going through this.
Post # 18
I voted no because this doesn’t sound like the sort of relationship where YOU are truly being fulfilled. Is this really the best scenario, in your mind? Is this really the man of your dreams (the way he is treating you indicates that he is not). In a way, this break up may be a real blessing! Moving forward means that you get a fresh start, and the opportunity to meet someone that treats you like a queen 🙂
Post # 19
@tifnseth16: Ha, did his mom pay this counselor! It’s totally unhealthy IMO! You are NOT crazy!
Post # 20
I am truly shocked at the counselors response. I wonder too if the mom paid her/him. It’s ok to be close to your mom but not when it comes to being controlling and choosing her over the woman you supposedly love and want to spend the rest of your life with. The letter she wrote to you should have made him mad too…at her! I never tell anyone to leave their SO but in you case, I would have to. You said you are young…you have plenty of time to find someone better suited for you AND your son. As a mom I would want my SO to be a good role model for my son.
Post # 21
I could forgive the rushed decision to get engaged, and him not realizing until too late that he wasn’t ready. I can’t forgive the not standing up for you, the putting you down and mocking you isn’t ok. Again though, you mention that you are very young, he clearly hasn’t grown up or learned how to fight fair. I think you have to sit down with him and discuss your relationship and how he treats you. If he’s unwilling to change that behaviour and he flat and says he forsure won’t ever marry you, then move on. If he is willing to try to change his behaviour and sees why it isn’t ok, tand as long as a future isn’t off the table for good but just for now, then you need to decide if thats good enough for you or not.
Post # 22
What I got from all this is that youre good enough to fuck but not respect or give a commitment to.