- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: May 2017
I have been married for a year and a half and things have been very difficult. There have been good times within our marriage but I feel that there are so many issues that it might not be worth it anymore.
My husband doesn’t want to have sex and I’m not sure why. When I ask him about it he just says that he doesn’t want to and then slams the door and watches more sports etc. When I continue to ask him he says that he just doesn’t want to. We have had sex a total of 5 times since we’ve been married.
Some additional issues are:
-My husband is very overweight and has promised that he would lose the weight but he hasn’t.
-His family is very difficult and he has 3 other siblings who have harrassed and bullied us regardless that we have done everything we can for them including watching their kids repeatedly, included all of them in our wedding, and constantly gone over to their houses and done chores etc out of being unconditional. We do not speak to any of his family members anymore because they are so irrational and blow up every time we speak.
-We have no money. My husband wanted to undergo a highly expensive degree and I supported him monetarily through the whole time. My entire salary went toward rent, food, and all other costs including some of his tuition and now we have no money left.
The good side is that we enjoy doing a lot of things together like travelling, going out etc. We have a strong emotional connection with eachother and we are able to have deep conversations and experiences with one another. Its just that all of these other factors create major issues that make this marriage very difficult. The lack of sex has been so frustrating and emotionally draining for me as I feel like I am dead inside. He doesn’t even care to resolve this or make an effort to fix the issue. Instead he just pushes me away and tells me that he’s “tired” or doesn’t care right now.
I’m trying to understand if all of these other issues are a part of why he never wants to have sex or if this is just a separate issue.
Please any advice is appreciated.