Post # 1
Hey everyone. My fiance and I have been together for 8 years and he recently told me we lost the spark and that he doesn’t want to get married. A few months ago he was just talking about eloping. This is not the first time this has happened, which lead to me actually moving out and him begging for me back. I came back and 3 years later here we go again. I feel at this point we Should be going forward in life, not taking two steps back. We have small children together and I really don’t know what to do. Should I stay and “work on things” or is it time to leave? Will I ever be able to find someone else with me having 3 kids?
Post # 2
thebreannaresh : I am divorced with three children, one with special needs, and am engaged to a wonderful man.
Only you can decide if you will stay or go–what is the rest of the relationship like? If everything was great except for the piece of paper it would be one thing. But you have left before, he’s not feeling it–do you see a future with him?
Post # 3
thebreannaresh : this must be incredibly painful for you. All I can say is don’t expect to marry, push to marry or even look to marry someone who has clearly stated that s/he does not want to marry YOU.
Its one thing for people to have doubts about marriage in general or getting married at a certain point in life. It’s an entirely different thing to not want to marry a specific someone. For. Whatever. Reason.
Post # 4
DO NOT STAY FOR THE CHILDREN!!!!
Sorry, I didn’t mean to “yell” but that should never be a reason. Also, I married a man with 4 kids so the answer is YES in time you will find someone who loves you and your kids.
Good luck bee. Trust your gut and make the right decision for you and your family.
Post # 5
Only you can decide that. But I agree with PP’s. You can definitely find someone else with 3 kids!! I was previously engaged to a man with 3 kids. It didn’t work out, but it had nothing to do with his wonderful kids!!
Post # 6
If you’re already wishy washy on staying, you know your heart isnt in it. Your kids deserve to see their mom happy, and it doesnt sound like you are.
Post # 7
It seems you posted about this issue 3 weeks ago as well (and you’re CURRENTLY pregnant with your 3rd child, is that right?). A lot of Bees suggested couples therapy. Have you talked to him about that?
Post # 8
You can’t force someone to marry you if they do not want to do so. You gave it a second chance, and here he you are again reliving history that has repeated. If you want to be married, it will not be with him. Yes, how many kids you have, how old you are, and anything else that is a hindrance for you to leave won’t interfere with you finding love again. You can absolutely get married to someone else if that is what you would like in the future. Blended families are the norm.