Should i stay or go?

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
Member
3459 posts
Sugar bee

thebreannaresh :  I am divorced with three children, one with special needs, and am engaged to a wonderful man.

Only you can decide if you will stay or go–what is the rest of the relationship like? If everything was great except for the piece of paper it would be one thing. But you have left before, he’s not feeling it–do you see a future with him? 

Post # 3
Member
2724 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

thebreannaresh :  this must be incredibly painful for you. All I can say is don’t expect to marry, push to marry or even look to marry someone who has clearly stated that s/he does not want to marry YOU. 

 

Its one thing for people to have doubts about marriage in general or getting married at a certain point in life. It’s an entirely different thing to not want to marry a specific someone. For. Whatever. Reason. 

Post # 4
Member
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

DO NOT STAY FOR THE CHILDREN!!!!

Sorry, I didn’t mean to “yell” but that should never be a reason. Also, I married a man with 4 kids so the answer is YES in time you will find someone who loves you and your kids.

Good luck bee. Trust your gut and make the right decision for you and your family. 

Post # 5
Member
1173 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Only you can decide that. But I agree with PP’s. You can definitely find someone else with 3 kids!! I was previously engaged to a man with 3 kids. It didn’t work out, but it had nothing to do with his wonderful kids!!

Post # 6
Member
1627 posts
Bumble bee

If you’re already wishy washy on staying, you know your heart isnt in it. Your kids deserve to see their mom happy, and it doesnt sound like you are.

Post # 7
Member
5316 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

It seems you posted about this issue 3 weeks ago as well (and you’re CURRENTLY pregnant with your 3rd child, is that right?). A lot of Bees suggested couples therapy. Have you talked to him about that?

Post # 8
Member
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You can’t force someone to marry you if they do not want to do so. You gave it a second chance, and here he you are again reliving history that has repeated. If you want to be married, it will not be with him. Yes, how many kids you have, how old you are, and anything else that is a hindrance for you to leave won’t interfere with you finding love again. You can absolutely get married to someone else if that is what you would like in the future. Blended families are the norm.

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