(Closed) Should I stay or should I go?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3683 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m confused.  Are you just friends with the ex, or are you cheating with him?

Post # 5
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3683 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

If you can’t give your current boyfriend 100%, I think you should break up with him.  It’s not fair to him for you to have a guy on the side.  At the same time, you should be with the guy who is going to make you and your child happy.  But you have to pick one or the other to be in a relationship with.  If you choose your child’s father, you need to sever ties permanently with the other guy.  

If you do decide to break up with your current boyfriend, I think you should do it before the baby is born.  You don’t want your baby to know a home with two parents and then go and break it up later when you know right now that you’re having doubts.  

Post # 7
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3723 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@kate28:  “The new boy-friend again is the one for me I just need to make my heart feel it.”

That’s not how it should work. You shouldn’t need to convince your heart that your boyfriend is the man for you.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree with @UberClaire. You can’t make your heart feel something it already doesn’t. Perhaps you need to take some time to be single to figure out what you are truly searching for in a relationship and if you’re even ready for one right now.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

surely if you even have to ask the question then you should probably be leaving…

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

well good luck to you however you decide to deal with the situation. 🙂

Post # 15
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Usually I say, if you have to ask whether to stay or go, your heart isn’t fully in it and the answer is typically go. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Surely you are aware that children is a bigger commitment than marriage? Sorry, whether you want it or not, you are going to have this man in your life forever, so now you have to decide if you want him in your life as a partner and family or as an ex with whom you’re raising your child.

You should definitely cut the contact with your ex, there’s a reason he’s an ex and you mentioned you don’t want to be with him, so why let him in your life in a way that hurts your relationship.

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