(Closed) Should I stay or should I go?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow, I’m sorry that you had to see that, but it may just have saved you! I wouldn’t even entertain the idea of marrying someone who thinks like this. This is unforgiveable. It’s easier to call off a wedding than get divorced! RUN. 

Post # 4
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2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally, I’d wake him up and scream at him.  But I mean, the rational response is try to get some sleep and talk to him rationally about it tomorrow.  Really though, yeah, it might end up with you leaving him forever.  That convo is complete bullsh*t and totally unacceptable.

Post # 5
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh wow. That is absolutely disgusting! He’s openly admitting that he might marry you, then get divorced just so he can be with this woman!

I would get screenshots of the messages, pack your bags, leave him a letter on the nightstand with the ring, and go to a friend’s house. Don’t even bother giving him the chance to come back – he’s clearly stating his only reason for staying with you is so he doesn’t feel bad for ditching you for this other woman.

Post # 6
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4561 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

WTF???

That is so not ok.

Not much else I can say.

 

*hugs*

Post # 7
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1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

you need to leave – at least for now (but i hope forever, I believe you can do better than that). Get some space and take care of yourself and your feelings, that is a lot to take in 

Post # 9
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1109 posts
Bumble bee

You need to leave this guy. He should never let another woman speak about you like that. I am hurting for you. Even if this woman dissappears, what’s stopping him from doing this again with somone else? Tell him he can be happy with that b*tch and you’ll find someone who truly respects you. Tommrrow, for sure, you need to talk to him. Be strong and do not let him give you excuses or belittle your feelings. 

 

Post # 10
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666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@thisbeeisbroken:  You have every right to be all of those things. You’ve done nothing wrong – he has. I wish I could give you a big hug. x

Post # 13
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m so sorry. Why would you WANT to trust him again after this?

I’m going to be honest. I know some people very well who were/are not faithful. Get out now. It’s not going to change. 

I’d take off now and head to a friend’s house. 

Post # 14
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@thisbeeisbroken:

My heart is breaking for you – I can’t even imagine how it would feel to see that your partner is actively contemplating divorcing you even before you’re married!

For me, a conversation like that would be unforgiveable – not only is he discussing sex with this other woman, he doesn’t defend you at all. Even saying “I love you, but I love my fiance more,” would count somewhat in his favour! Seriously, just get out. Don’t stick around because of the last seven years – why waste any more time when he’s already thinking about divorcing you? That would just be even more years down the drain! You deserve so much better than this – I don’t even know you and I know you deserve better than a piece of crap who will abuse your trust or marry you just because he’ll feel bad if he doesn’t.

Post # 15
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805 posts
Busy bee

That’s just horrific, I really feel for you. If it were me I would have to leave, what he said is just…unspeakably awful. You still have lots – you still have everything you’ve worked for, it’s just that now you don’t have to share it with someone who would say things like that about you.

 

Post # 16
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1589 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You’re not a moron. I’ve seen it happen from the other side. It’s not about you, it’s about him and his issues. I understand having a crush on someone while you’re in a relationship, and questioning things, but he took it too far and I think the conversation was completely disrespectful. 

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