- 6 years ago
This is my first post, and I was hoping to make it a happy one but I need some advice!
I’ve commented on a couple topics here on WB saying that I was hoping to get a tax return ring in 2013, but I just talked to SO this morning and he said that most likely it will be in about three years, married withinin 4. :/
In March, we will have been dating for 4 years, living together for over 3 years. We’ve definitely had our ups and downs with unemployment, finances, health issues, and just plain growing up…we are now 23 and 24. After 8 months of dating, he asked me to marry him one night, but didn’t have a ring and I didn’t have a job and wasn’t completely independent from my mom, so I knew she wouldn’t be supportive. So we decided not to tell anyone, but in the end we just kept dating and never did anything to act on the engagement…but now I feel like I’ve been waiting for 3 years! And on top of it, I have to wait another couple of years?! UGH
Now, he says the only thing stopping him from proposing is money, he sent me a text just last night saying that he “wants to marry [me] so damn bad.” But I have given him a couple VERY affordable options for a ring (between $500-$800) so that there wouldn’t be so much pressure on him, and he can’t even save up for that…or he doesn’t want to. We do pay a lot of bills, he’s in the process of making payments on a home and I’m in a small amount of debt from when we were both unemployed, so I know money is partly the issue. That’s why I thought tax returns would be a great time to buy a ring, since he wouldn’t need to save up. But for the next two years he has already made plans for whatever money he gets back. This year it is for an airsoft op (his sport of choice) and he has buy a couple hundred dollars of gear plus gas money since it’s several states away. Next year he says that he needs to get a new car or fix the one he has so that it doesn’t poop out. BUT the year after that…it’s all about me! lol. Ohhh man, makes me want to cry just thinking about it.
SOO my question is….should I hold on for a several more years, or should I walk?
(Originally I had told his mom that he had until 2014 to propose, I would be 25 and could still either move on with my life and not worry about my clock ticking yet and I would be ready to get married if he could get himself together by then.) I do love him, and he’s a great guy and he tells me all the time he doesn’t want anyone else….but why am I last on his list?!
P.S. I will be going to college…again lol.. for about 3 years to get my engineering degree, so that will keep me busy while I’m waiting, hopefully busy enough..
And he will be going in a year for an associates in computer science.
If that makes any difference in anyones opinion!