(Closed) Should I still send invite after guest got STD and said they can't make it?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Future_Mrs.H:  blah, you’re supposed to send one… It can be a keepsake for them or something.

I know it sounds annoying but I KNEW at least 40+ of my invites were being sent to people that didn’t have any intension of coming (although they would have if travel money were no option) but I still sent them one regardless AND some of them even sent gifts because of it! 

Even though they can’t make it, if you wanted to invite them, they should get one.

Post # 4
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Future_Mrs.H:  i believe that, although it’s wasteful, etiquette says they should still receive the invite regardless. plus, their situation might change by rsvp time and it might be awkward for them to have to ask for an invite.

Post # 7
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Future_Mrs.H:  personally I’d send BUT I want to throw this out there since we had this issue with my FI’s God Father.

When we were inquiring for the address he made it clear he would not be able to come to the wedding, period. When I told my Fiance to send the invite anyways he was abnormally stubborn in the belief we should not. The reason, after an argument was that his God Father was/is sick and unable to travel and the invite would be a reminder of what he’s not able to attend. And in the end we are not sending the invite to him 🙁

If its something like that… don’t send….

Post # 8
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m glad I found this post…I was wondering about this today.

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