Post # 1
I have this e-ring:
We got the matching band, which looks like this (but in white gold):
This might be awful of me, but I’m starting to get a little bored with the plain band. And… I didn’t even like it much in the first place. We ordered the band kind of last minute and there was no time to exchange it, so I blocked out any concerns about the ring at the time. It was one more thing that I didn’t want to stress about before the wedding.
The band is notched so that it can sit flush with the e-ring, but because of those notches it doesn’t look good on its own if I ever want to wear it that way. And it doesn’t even look that great with the e-ring, because the band is much narrower than the band on the e-ring in both height and width.
I’ve been admiring the way many of you have paired your solitaire e-rings with micro-pave bands. I love the way this looks:
I wanted the micro-pave as slim and delicate as possible, and Chris at MoissaniteCo.com pointed me toward this low-profile shared prong ring with 2mm stones. It sounds perfect, and he gave me a great quote to modify it into a half-eternity:
The problem is, I feel so guilty for switching out my “real” wedding band, the one Darling Husband married me with, for another one just because it’s prettier! Or maybe that’s just being sentimental and silly? Plus even though it’s moissanite, it’s still a few hundred dollars that Darling Husband will frown upon being spent to replace a ring I’ve had for less than a month (he is practical to a fault). I know he’s right and I’m being vain, but… it’s my wedding band! I should love it, right?
Opinions? Did any of you other married bees switch your bands at some point? Why? Can I see pictures? Before and After pictures? Gah, I can’t stop thinking about a new band!!
Post # 3
Go for it! I love the look of pave wedding bands with solitaire engagement rings. I think it looks gorgeous together.
Post # 4
What does your husband think, in terms of the sentimental meaning of the original band?
Personally, I am a big fan of plain bands over diamond ones, so I am a little biased in favor of keeping it, and just rotating it so that the notch is inside your hand if you want to wear it alone. Beyond that, maybe I’d suggest wearing the current band for a little while longer to see how you feel. If you still want to change it in six months, consider asking him for the new band as a 1st anniversary present. That way it will have meaning of its own and you have some more time to decide and you don’t feel like you’re wanting a new band after barely wearing the old one.
Post # 5
Can you just wait a few years and then get an additional band as an anniversary ring? Lots of people do that. I have a plain wedding band and I would never get rid of it because it’s the ring I got married with–however, I love sparkly things, so I’m looking forward to an eternity band for an anniversary gift several years in the future.
Post # 6
Personally, I love the look of an eternity band (or a band with stones in it) with any shaped solitaire.
I wouldn’t feel guilty about it. Lots of women nowadays actually have many different wedding sets to match their moods. 🙂 Wedding rings are symbols. The ring is not physically the love your share with your husband or the promise you made that day, it’s a symbol of it. Wedding rings are tricky for a lot of people because they are sort of where fashion and sentiment come together, lol. I don’t see any problem with wanting a second wedding band. If you really want to sanctify it, perhaps you could get it on your anniversary as a symbol of your first year of marriage?
I want to get an eternity band as the ring he will give me when we wed and then a plain band that I’ll wear camping and things like that. I don’t think any of the rings will mean any less to me. The eternity ring may be “more special” because it is my “official” wedding band, but the plain band will still symbolize my commitment to my SO.
Post # 7
In the interest of full disclosure, my honey and I designed my engagement ring together and are designing our wedding bands together so I’m pretty biased 🙂 But,having said that, I’d switch it if you don’t love it. You wear your wedding band every day, it’s a symbol of your commitment to your husband and it should reflect that! If it’s not “you” and you’re comfortable switching it out, go for it. Just make sure your husband has no sentimental attachment to it since you don’t want to stir up bad feelings.
If he’s just concerned about the monetary aspect, a couple hundred is a small price to pay to be happy every time you look at your band and if you’re know your jeweler well he might be able to work with your existing band. For my engagement ring, my jeweler melted down some broken family jewelry to use in my ring. It made it both more sentimental and more affordable! Could your jeweler set your stones into your existing band, or melt down your existing band and reform it into a band that he can set the stones in to? That way you’d still be wearing your wedding band but it’d be in a style you love!
Post # 8
If you don’t like it, I say switch it! Especially seeing you wear it every day! I do know women who have switched out their bands as their taste changed, jobs changes, income changed, etc. In my first marriage, I did end up changing my band as my original was yellow gold and my taste change to white gold. Now to just figure out how to get your mister sold on the idea!
Post # 9
Ohhh I like the look of the second band much better. Its lines are cleaner, and it’s just visually more appealing than the larger stones with all the bumps. If your husband is ok with switching, i’d do that. You could always trade in/sell your other band towards the cost!
Post # 10
My SIL has an e-ring very similar to yours and she has a micropave band and together they look *amazing*! I myself am not a huge fan of solitaires with plain shanks, but when I saw hers paired with her band I’ve since reconsidered/ate my words. I think they compliment each other so well!
So I suppose you know which camp I’m in 🙂
Post # 11
How about getting another band as an anniversary gift? Then you’ll have the sentimental band and what you want.
Post # 12
@Entangled: I really like this suggestion! I think that would make both of us happy. I just emailed Darling Husband with the idea, I hope he agrees.
@DeathByDesign: Intellectually I totally agree with you, which is why I’m so surprised at my sudden sentimentality. Thanks for knocking some sense back into me!
@saraja87: That’s an interesting idea! I’m purchasing the ring from MoissaniteCo.com rather than a brick-and-mortar jewelry store, so I don’t know if I can send in my ring to be melted down and used to make the new one. I know they do some custom work and mine is going to be custom to some extent, so I guess it can’t hurt to ask.
Post # 13
I actually prefer the plain band as opposed to the diamond band with solitaire e-rings. I just don’t think the diamond band looks right with the solitaire. Maybe you could get another ring that you could wear on its own (as a wedding band) if you wanted to.
Post # 14
Go for it! I, like you, love the look of solitaires with bands that have stones. If your husband is super opposed to the idea, maybe wait a while, but if it’s what you want, and if you can afford it, I don’t see any reason not to go for it. 🙂
Post # 15
Wear all three! My closest girlfriend has a plain band she used when she got married and a diamond band she got for after. Depending on what she is doing, she wear just the plain band, the diamond wedding band, either of the two with her e-ring, or all three! I like that she has some much versatility.