(Closed) Should I switch my plain band for a micro pave? Pics inside…

posted 11 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you or would you switch your wedding band if you didn't like it?

    I did switch my wedding band!

    I love my wedding band, but if I didn't I would have no problem with getting a new one

    I would not switch my wedding band, even if I didn't like it, because it has such meaning to me

    I would not switch my wedding band, even if I didn't like it, because it would cost too much

    Other, explained below

  • Post # 3
    1712 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Go for it! I love the look of pave wedding bands with solitaire engagement rings. I think it looks gorgeous together.

    Post # 4
    1373 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    What does your husband think, in terms of the sentimental meaning of the original band?

    Personally, I am a big fan of plain bands over diamond ones, so I am a little biased in favor of keeping it, and just rotating it so that the notch is inside your hand if you want to wear it alone. Beyond that, maybe I’d suggest wearing the current band for a little while longer to see how you feel.  If you still want to change it in six months, consider asking him for the new band as a 1st anniversary present.  That way it will have meaning of its own and you have some more time to decide and you don’t feel like you’re wanting a new band after barely wearing the old one.

    Post # 5
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    Can you just wait a few years and then get an additional band as an anniversary ring?  Lots of people do that.  I have a plain wedding band and I would never get rid of it because it’s the ring I got married with–however, I love sparkly things, so I’m looking forward to an eternity band for an anniversary gift several years in the future.

    Post # 6
    3974 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Personally, I love the look of an eternity band (or a band with stones in it) with any shaped solitaire.

    I wouldn’t feel guilty about it. Lots of women nowadays actually have many different wedding sets to match their moods. ๐Ÿ™‚ Wedding rings are symbols. The ring is not physically the love your share with your husband or the promise you made that day, it’s a symbol of it. Wedding rings are tricky for a lot of people because they are sort of where fashion and sentiment come together, lol. I don’t see any problem with wanting a second wedding band. If you really want to sanctify it, perhaps you could get it on your anniversary as a symbol of your first year of marriage?

    I want to get an eternity band as the ring he will give me when we wed and then a plain band that I’ll wear camping and things like that. I don’t think any of the rings will mean any less to me. The eternity ring may be “more special” because it is my “official” wedding band, but the plain band will still symbolize my commitment to my SO.

    Post # 7
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    In the interest of full disclosure, my honey and I designed my engagement ring together and are designing our wedding bands together so I’m pretty biased ๐Ÿ™‚ But,having said that, I’d switch it if you don’t love it. You wear your wedding band every day, it’s a symbol of your commitment to your husband and it should reflect that! If it’s not “you” and you’re comfortable switching it out, go for it. Just make sure your husband has no sentimental attachment to it since you don’t want to stir up bad feelings.

    If he’s just concerned about the monetary aspect, a couple hundred is a small price to pay to be happy every time you look at your band and if you’re know your jeweler well he might be able to work with your existing band. For my engagement ring, my jeweler melted down some broken family jewelry to use in my ring. It made it both more sentimental and more affordable! Could your jeweler set your stones into your existing band, or melt down your existing band and reform it into a band that he can set the stones in to? That way you’d still be wearing your wedding band but it’d be in a style you love!

    Post # 8
    885 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    If you don’t like it, I say switch it! Especially seeing you wear it every day! I do know women who have switched out their bands as their taste changed, jobs changes, income changed, etc. In my first marriage, I did end up changing my band as my original was yellow gold and my taste change to white gold. Now to just figure out how to get your mister sold on the idea!

    Post # 9
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Ohhh I like the look of the second band much better. Its lines are cleaner, and it’s just visually more appealing than the larger stones with all the bumps. If your husband is ok with switching, i’d do that. You could always trade in/sell your other band towards the cost!

    Post # 10
    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    My SIL has an e-ring very similar to yours and she has a micropave band and together they look *amazing*! I myself am not a huge fan of solitaires with plain shanks, but when I saw hers paired with her band I’ve since reconsidered/ate my words. I think they compliment each other so well!   

    So I suppose you know which camp I’m in ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    748 posts
    Busy bee

    How about getting another band as an anniversary gift? Then you’ll have the sentimental band and what you want.

    Post # 13
    4211 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I actually prefer the plain band as opposed to the diamond band with solitaire e-rings. I just don’t think the diamond band looks right with the solitaire. Maybe you could get another ring that you could wear on its own (as a wedding band) if you wanted to.

    Post # 14
    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Go for it!  I, like you, love the look of solitaires with bands that have stones.  If your husband is super opposed to the idea, maybe wait a while, but if it’s what you want, and if you can afford it, I don’t see any reason not to go for it.  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 15
    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Wear all three! My closest girlfriend has a plain band she used when she got married and a diamond band she got for after.  Depending on what she is doing, she wear just the plain band, the diamond wedding band, either of the two with her e-ring, or all three! I like that she has some much versatility.

    Post # 16
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    stack them!

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