- 3 years ago
So ived dated this guy for over two years on and off, I have never been connected with anyone as i am with him. We love the same things, we balance each other out verywell, i feel as though he is my soulmate. Now before we started talking he let me know that he was going to have a child and if it would be an issue, now i asked why he wasnt with his Bridesmaid or Best Man and ofcourse i got the shes crazy and controlling and i just cant hadle being with someone like that. He wants to be involved in his sons life but he does not want to be with her. Throughout her preganancy she ofcourse hated me becuase she thought i stole him from her, and that i broke up her family, she was very mean and hateful. I tried to reach out and settle our differences, i didnt want to be best friends but i wanted to be civil. Once she had her baby, she did not tell my bf and avoided him so he wouldnt be able to see him or be on the birth certificate. SO HERE IS WHERE SHIT HITS THE FAN!
Once her baby is born she randomly texts him to see him and ofcourse my bf agrees, so we set up for him to see him but i cant be around. She now dangles her child as a pawn to get what she wants and tell him that they should fix things and that she wants to be with him and that his son needs him and if not then he wont see his son again. so my bf thinks thats the easier choice and we broke up. once hes with her and she goes nuts and become the psycho she was he leaves her and comes back to me. this has happend three times. Each time my heart was broken, more and more each time. Now after 6 months of no contact i reached out to give him so important news about an old friend that passed away. from then we rekindled and he wants to be with me, he says he is getting a lawyer to get his rights and that hes going to do right buy me but im scared that this could be the same as before but at the same time my heart says what if it finally clicked.
I dont want to sound like im perfect becuase im far from that, but i was an amazing gf to him. through thick and thing no matter what, and i had shown him unconditional love. His family loves me, especuially his parents. I feel like the bond that i have had with him has never appeard with anyone else, i dont want to make excuses for the things that he has done becuase theres way more to this story but i love him and i know he loves me too, he did what he did becuase he wanted to be with his son, it was the wrong way to approach it but he did it. Should i make this commitment again and possibly end up hurt again or take a shot and hope that he came to his senses.