Post # 1
I already posted last week about how I feel super weird about registering for things. But this is a more specific question.
FI and I registered for some things we liked using MyRegistry. We have been piecing together a wedding website too and we have photos in our photo gallery, “Our Story” filled out, and I put the link to our registry on the website under the “Our Registries” tab.
Well, now our families are throwing us an engagement party and we had the idea to put an “Engagement Party!” tab on our website and direct guests to there for info that we didn’t have room for on the invitation (directions, dress, and what food and drinks we will be serving, etc).
It says this at the bottom of the invitation:
“for more information, go to http://www.mywedding.com/xxxxxxxx and click “Engagement Party!”
I was just looking at it and started feeling awkward that our registry is on the website already. Does that look presumptuous?
Should I take it down? Or is it expected? Would it be helpful to people if they did want to bring a gift? Or would it make people feel pressure?
I was going to put something about “no gifts” under our “Engagement Party!” tab, but then I read some etiquette thing that took a strong stance on never mentioning gifts and I’m not sure.
I would just like to hear opinions!
Post # 3
Etiquette Snob here… lol
Gifts as you may know are NEVER a required item (except for a Shower)… so as such should never be seen to be “front & centre” or asked for in any way.
They are most certainly not the norm for Engagement Parties… although when I got married the first time fresh out of Uni, and MY Parents thru an EParty for Family & some of their Friends (life long people I knew… Neighbours etc) there were some Gifts that did show up / were given.
Nothing overly fancy… but they were all very sweet.
The key was I thanked the person who handed them to me (same as you would do with a card) and put them aside to be opened later in private. And I sent out Thank You Notes IMMEDIATELY afterwards.
And so it should be… a no pressure sort of thing.
So ya, I’d take down the Registry Link until after the EParty is come and gone.
And if someone should ask about getting you a gift, remember the old saying “Your presence is truly present enough”
(Altho in reality, if a family member of someone in your BP ever hears of such a Question they are the ones to pass on the info about where you are Registered).
On your Wedding Website, when the time comes the info should be really really basic and not glaring. One sentence is enough… and the norm is no more than 2 places… and make them different, ie:
- Department Store & Book Store
- China Store & Sports Store
- Big Box Store & Kitchen Store
Hope this helps,
Post # 4
@FutureMrsT1221: Personally, yes, I would take it down until after the engagement party.
Post # 5
@This Time Round:
honestly, that’s all I needed to hear! Definitely taking it down haha. I just didn’t know if I was being scrupulous because registering for gifts made me feel awkward in the first place. Thanks!