(Closed) Should I talk to my supervisor? sexual harrassment…

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s not sexual harrassment. It’s just unprofessional.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think it’s sexual harassment. I would suggest that you tell your coworkers how it is making you feel before you go above their heads. They may have no idea that you are being made uncomfortable by this.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, tell your supervisor. I could never imagine a conversation like that happening in my work place. You shouldn’t have to listen to that!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Lemma:  Agreed. 

I dont think they are doing anything wrong that warrents you going above them to complain.  They are harrassing you, just having a conversation you happen to be uncomfortable with.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t think you should go to your supervisor unless you ask them to stop and they refuse.  It’s not the most professional workplace conversation, but they probably have no idea that you find the topic of sex disgusting.  If you thought you were uncomfortable when they talked about sex, just wait until how uncomfortable you will be when they find out you tattled to a supervisor without confronting them directly.

ETA: Since you’ve told them it makes you uncomfortable and they called you a name in response, I’d recommend going to HR next.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would talk to them first.  It’s rude and it’s causing you genuine distress.  If they persist, I would ask your supervisor to intervene; I would say it’s creating a hostile work environment, but give them a chance to try and fix it on their own first.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Lemma:  I agree. 

It might make you uncomfortable but it’s not sexual harassment.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

So for those who are saying it is not sexual harrassment you are incorrect. It would be the same as if you were sitting in a group of men and they were discussing how hard they are. I’m assuming you would all consider this sexual harrasment, right?

This IS sexual harrasment. Any conversation regarding any sexual matter, including simple body part conversations, are sexual harrassment. 

If you are not comfortable, or are worried about alienating yourself, I would not go to your supervisor, but I would go to your human resource dept who would be able to keep it anonymous

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

no it is sexual harassment, and it’s harassment in general for your coworker to call you a bitch

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

you should talk to an HR rep, not your supervisor. Dealing with these types of incidents is a primary purpose of HR. Regardless of whether this is harrassment or not, it’s unprofessional and preventing you from doing your job, so you should file a report.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Double

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Triple

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mwitter80:  I would only consider that sexual harassment if the men’s comments were directed at me. In the OP’s case, she is just overhearing a conversation.

@sexisammy4u:  If you’ve asked them to stop, then yes, you should calmly explain to your supervisor what has been happening and how it makes you feel.

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