Post # 1
The ladies around me are always talking about their sex life. Talking about how great sex is with their men and how important it is to have sex all day with your man because then he will give you everything you want. They sit here and talk about their favorite positions and such. My coworker next to me just proceeded to tell us how her “cooch is so swollen from having sex all night”. There are grown women in their 40’s. I am 25. This type of conversation makes me very uncomfortable. I believe sex is a personal thing between two people and does not need to be broadcasted. I usually walk away when this conversation starts as it usually lasts only a few minutes but today the convo lasted about 30+ minutes. I was so uncomfortable that I was having a panic attack. I do not want to hear about their disgusting thoughts about sex and such. Should I tell a supervisor? I feel like this is sexual harrassment..
Post # 3
It’s not sexual harrassment. It’s just unprofessional.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s sexual harassment. I would suggest that you tell your coworkers how it is making you feel before you go above their heads. They may have no idea that you are being made uncomfortable by this.
Post # 5
Yes, tell your supervisor. I could never imagine a conversation like that happening in my work place. You shouldn’t have to listen to that!
Post # 6
I dont think they are doing anything wrong that warrents you going above them to complain. They are harrassing you, just having a conversation you happen to be uncomfortable with.
Post # 7
I don’t think you should go to your supervisor unless you ask them to stop and they refuse. It’s not the most professional workplace conversation, but they probably have no idea that you find the topic of sex disgusting. If you thought you were uncomfortable when they talked about sex, just wait until how uncomfortable you will be when they find out you tattled to a supervisor without confronting them directly.
ETA: Since you’ve told them it makes you uncomfortable and they called you a name in response, I’d recommend going to HR next.
Post # 8
I would talk to them first. It’s rude and it’s causing you genuine distress. If they persist, I would ask your supervisor to intervene; I would say it’s creating a hostile work environment, but give them a chance to try and fix it on their own first.
Post # 9
@Lemma: I agree.
It might make you uncomfortable but it’s not sexual harassment.
Post # 10
I have told them to stop because it makes me uncomfortable and one of the girls told me “dont be such a prude little bitch”. 🙁
I just feel sex lives should not be discussed with others who aren’t like, your closest girlfriends, you know?
Post # 11
So for those who are saying it is not sexual harrassment you are incorrect. It would be the same as if you were sitting in a group of men and they were discussing how hard they are. I’m assuming you would all consider this sexual harrasment, right?
This IS sexual harrasment. Any conversation regarding any sexual matter, including simple body part conversations, are sexual harrassment.
If you are not comfortable, or are worried about alienating yourself, I would not go to your supervisor, but I would go to your human resource dept who would be able to keep it anonymous
Post # 12
no it is sexual harassment, and it’s harassment in general for your coworker to call you a bitch
Post # 13
you should talk to an HR rep, not your supervisor. Dealing with these types of incidents is a primary purpose of HR. Regardless of whether this is harrassment or not, it’s unprofessional and preventing you from doing your job, so you should file a report.
Post # 14
@mwitter80: I would only consider that sexual harassment if the men’s comments were directed at me. In the OP’s case, she is just overhearing a conversation.
@sexisammy4u: If you’ve asked them to stop, then yes, you should calmly explain to your supervisor what has been happening and how it makes you feel.