(Closed) Should I tell Bride I need special meal?

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
46597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell her of your dietary requirements

 There is not usually an extra charge.

Post # 4
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d let her know and I’d also give her ideas of foods you can eat so she can tell the caterer

Post # 5
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would suggest asking her about the menu, saying that you need to know whether you should eat beforehand.  Most likely, she will be able to get you a special meal at no additional cost.  However, that way, she won’t feel defensive if she’s unable to do it.

Post # 7
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I like @2dBride:‘s idea. It gives the bride a heads up but you are letting her know that you can also just eat beforehand and save her the increased cost if it’s too much to work out with the caterer. Most do not have an additional charge, though, and I’m sure she’d appreciate at least having the chance to try to look into it for you. 


Post # 8
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with the other posters that you should let her know about your dietary needs, and I agree with @2dBride: with the way you should let her know. As a bride, I would hate for any of my guests to go hungry, just because they weren’t able to eat anything I/we provided.

Post # 9
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If you care to share, can you tell me why you are on a low-acid diet? Is that the alkaline diet? I ask because my family has reflux, heartburn…and also my dad just passed away of a gastrointestinal cancer (esophagael and stomach) . We’ve been learning a bit of what types of diets we should be on, etc. 

Post # 11
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would let her know, and also suggest another option. Possibly bring your own food. Or eat beforehand. But caterers should be able to accommodate you at no charge.

Post # 12
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i am on a fairly strickt diet and have never requested a special meal, however i work for a catering company and we often have people ask for special  plates (like soft food and vegetarian) we generally have no clue befor hand. But like I said unless it is something I can controll and talk to the cook I would eat before hand and eat what you can. I know personally certain people invited have strick diets so I am planning for them but they never said anything to me. I understand your point about cost but she will probably have to pay for you either way because of drinks, cake, if you eat a roll etc. 

Post # 13
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Let her know but do it in a nice way (though I’m sure you will). Especially have meal suggestions so that she doesn’t stress too much. She won’t want to hear after the fact that you didn’t eat anything at her wedding.

Post # 14
875 posts
Busy bee

I think you should let her know and let her know that if adding a special meal is too expensive or difficult that you’ll just eat on the way or pack something to eat…  I have a friend who is highly allergic to many different common foods.  Most catering companies will be glad to supply a meal that will not cause an allergic reaction!

Post # 15
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My caterer didn’t charge extra for gluten free meals that I needed for 2 of my guests.

I would tell her.  I’ve never heard of a low acid diet so maybe you could give her a list to give to her caterer so the caterer know what they can put together.

If you are afraid there might be a cost, you could tell her to ask her caterer if there is a cost.  If not, it would be great. If not, maybe tell her that you can eat dinner before you come.  That’s what my two guests said they would do if my caterer could do the gluten free meals.

Post # 16
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t know about low acid diets but my caterers are doing vegetarian and gluten free for us at no extra charge. maybe give her a few ideas of what you can eat so that there is no guess work, ie. a plain peice of chicken breast and vegetables (or whatever it is)

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