(Closed) Should I tell DH about the therapist?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think that he is your husband. You tell him everything.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You should be able to talk to you Darling Husband about this.  My Fiance was the one that pushed me to see a doctor and go on anti-depressants. He was my rock through the whole ordeal and i was so happy to have him supporting me every step of the way. 

Your Darling Husband wont judge you. You would be surprised how much more aware of your struggles he probably is. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You need to tell him – think about the situation reciprocally.  Would you want him to keep this from you?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Tell him. You share your life with this man, and that includes the up’s and the down’s. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mnp:  Beside your impending anxiety about telling him, is there any other reasons why you think you don’t need to share this?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mnp:  I guess if you were to tell him (and I probably would), I’d say, “I’m working on being the best “me” I can be, so I started seeing a therapist to help me about my anxiety.  I just thought you should know.  That is all.”

 

How’s that for starters? 🙂  Most peple don’t seek out counseling for minor issues though.

 

I was mainly seeing if he was the cause of your anxiety. 

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I suffer from GAD that comes and goes.  I told my husband when I first had symptoms, when I was diagnosed, and every time I feel like it’s coming on again.  It’s not something I have to be ashamed of, and he has the right to know what’s going on with me.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Swizzle:  “My Fiance was the one that pushed me to see a doctor and go on anti-depressants. He was my rock through the whole ordeal and i was so happy to have him supporting me every step of the way. 

Your Darling Husband wont judge you. You would be surprised how much more aware of your struggles he probably is.”


My Darling Husband was the same way!  He could just tell what I was going through and was the one who finally convinced me to get on an anti-anxiety, anti-drepression med.

OP – you need your husband’s support here and he is the person you should be able to tell anything and everything to.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

Commenting from the other side. (I feel like I’ve been doing that a lot lately!) Darling Husband has GAD and he told me when he started to see a therapist. I am so happy that he told me so I could be there to support him with his struggles. I would have been disappointed (mostly in myself) if he felt he had to hide it from me.

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I would really encourage you to let him know. If my Darling Husband told me he had been seeing a therapist for months and I had no idea, I would feel stunned and hurt that he had kept a secret from me. I hope that you’re able to find some good coping skills for your anxiety in counseling!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Uh, as someone who suffers from anxiety, I think it is crucial to your healing to tell your Darling Husband. Plus, how do you think he’d feel if he had found out that you never told him?

Even if he isn’t the cause of your anxiety, you need support and what better person than your DH? Just explain that you can manage this yourself, but at least give him the opportunity to help you and listen.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

He is your husband. He is supposed to be your support, your rock, your hard place. He is there to help you and encourage you. Keeping things from him will not help your anxiety, as you’ll always be anxious to talk to him.

Tell him. He needs to know. You’d want to know if he had anxiety and was seeing a therapist, right?

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