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should i tell her?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge

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DeniseSecunda
2 years ago

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soexcited123: Not all sisters are close at all or closer than friends.

Post # 62

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soexcited123
2 years ago

Wedding: July 2019

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DeniseSecunda : But for a friend to actually be jealous of their friends relationship with their own sister is very weird to me. Like its her sister of course they would be close why would any sane friend be jealous or expect that their relationship would be equal to that of a sister?

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MeiFrancis
2 years ago

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alfalfasprout10518 : I bet she was doing a bad job of listening in on your conversation and was responding to what she thought she heard and not what you said.

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jannigirl
2 years ago

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MeiFrancis : that’s my thought. Or she was actually making an exclamation that was referring to the separate conversation she was having & the OP thought she was interjecting into her conversation.

Post # 65

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zzar45
2 years ago

Wedding: July 2018

You sound so dramatic getting upset about this. Why would you even tell your sister that her friend called you her cousin? Seriously who cares? It doesn’t even make any sense.

Post # 66

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neverbeenstungbee
2 years ago

You updated to say it’s not a big deal, but yet you took the time to post about it. And in the OP dramatically said her comment was offensive and “downgrading” (degrading?).

Idk I don’t get why this is occupying your headspace. Sounds like you just don’t like the girl

Post # 67

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alfalfasprout10518
2 years ago

Wedding: October 2018

Thank you to the beees that can see how this real life situation would be incredibly socially awkward for someone. And how they’d like to know whether or not to tell their own sister that her life long friend is being strange

I did not misunderstand or misinterpret the situation. The woman was very clearly speaking to me and this man and she was very clearly giving me an attitude because for some reason something must be bothering her.

To the bees asking why I would post about this, why post about anything? People post about random shit on this website all day long. I wanted to have a conversation with a bunch of other people to see how they would feel in this type of situation. Half of you said it was strange and that you would speak to your sister if it were you and half of you said that you didn’t think it was a big deal and not to Seney thing. It’s all quite simple. Nothing here is groundbreaking.

I have thought about it and decided not to say anything to my sister. If her friend continues to be strange towards me then I will have a conversation with her myself like some posters suggested

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neverbeenstungbee : Downgrading is the proper term

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konablend
2 years ago

Tell your sister what?

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Tatum
2 years ago

Wedding: October 2010

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alfalfasprout10518 : Do you think your sister even wants to stay that close to Amy? I just find it super, super weird that she would go out of her way to exclude Amy from her party on the basis that she just had a baby. Sounds like Amy would rather walk naked through Time Square and then wrestle a crocodile than miss your sister’s party. Do you think she’s maybe finding Amy’s attention a bit stifling? If so, it may not come up that much anymore that you have to endure’s Amy company.

Did you end up clarifying to that guy that you were indeed a sister, not a cousin?

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alfalfasprout10518
2 years ago

Wedding: October 2018

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Tatum : my sister really wasn’t trying to be a jerk about the party, Amy had just had a baby so she assumed she wouldn’t be up for coming because she had a hard labor. She was very surprised and happy when she did show up. I told that story specifically because of how any acted like she was the only one my sister would care about seeing even though the room was filled with surprise guests. Just seemed odd to us.

I did clarify. After giving her a weird look I just said something like “hmm that was weird. Anyway….I’m her sister” and we kept it moving

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sboom
2 years ago

Wedding: January 2021

Ok, yes it was a weird comment… But it’s honestly just as weird that something so silly would continue to bother you days later.

Besides, considering it was one off hand comment that came out when you are having two separate conversations, it is entirely possible that she misheard something and responded according to what she thought she heard rather than what uyo actually said. Who the fuck knows or cares.

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midgy86
2 years ago

Wedding: May 2018

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alfalfasprout10518 : OP you’re not wrong for feeling weird about it. It was a very bizzare thing she said and it seems as if she is acting some off way to you for whatever reason. Don’t let other bees who are telling you its something silly to have on your mind get you down because as you said people post dumb sh*t on here all the time so at the end of the day, it’s something on your mind and you asked a question. Nothing wrong with it. Since it has been days later I say leave it but if you and your sister are talking and it works into the convo then sure bring it up no biggie.