Post # 1
hi bees, my husband asked for divorce in oct 16 and this past April I reconnected with an old crush. It felt so nice to be wanted again and finally I had a distraction from my impending divorce. He told me that timing was crazy that i found him because he was going thru separation (lies!) I kept asking him because I didn’t want to ruin a marriage. So we met up and he initiated sex. Ugh was not worth it I immediately got std like symptoms in 24-48 hours. He kept denying it he tried to blame it on uti and soap what a dumb fuck!!! I was stupid I let him in a moment of weakness do it without a condom. My std tests came back normal(tested positive for BV and yeast infection possibly UTI) but why was my body raging with symptoms? Even after 3 courses of antibiotics. That was April and my body and junk hasn’t been normal since.
Abnormal bleeding, discharge and smells any ideas if tests are falsely negative ?
i got tested 2 more times all negative
hes blocked me from fb. He didn’t responded to my text or email asking about std
should I warn his wife? He will know it’s me I’m not sure how to do it anonymously
Post # 2
I think you need to figure out your health before worrying about contacting his wife.
Have you spoken with your doctor?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Do over. I had to put my previous work experiences aside and thoroughly read your post. You never stated you confirmed he was still with his wife. Your STD tests have been negative so he could be innocent there, you could also possibly have something the doctor hasn’t tested you for yet. Go back to the doctor. In the future refrain from having unprotected sex with men you’ve barely gotten to know. Its never going to be worth it. At this point its not clear whether or not he’s still with his wife so there might be nothing to tell.
Post # 4
bobsgirl2007 : How do you know he isn’t going through a separation with his wife? I think if you’ve been tested three times you might need to accept that it could be something else. Stop emailing him about him giving you an STD, you do not know if that’s true.
What is your goal with his wife? To tell her the husband slept with you or he gave you an STD? It seems to be the latter from your post and you need to take a certain amount of responsibility here, you selpt with a man you barely know and had unprotected sex, there are risks.
Post # 5
bobsgirl2007 : Yes, how do you know he’s not going through a separation? Your health is more important than telling his wife, lol. It’s. It’s not your battle to fight at this point… He’s the shitty person
Post # 6
heavenlyflower : Isn’t PID derrived from chlamydia and gonorrhea? So that would have shown up on the std tests. The medicine for bv, I believe, would have helped with trich. I could be off though. In any case, I agree she needs to see another doctor and discuss these symptoms. Granted, they still relevant to bv, yeast infection, and uti (outside the abnormal bleeding unless it’s in the urine). But with extended symptoms like this, a visit to the doctor is warranted.
Op, focus on your health first, and if you want to tell the wife, do it after you take care of yourself. It seems to me, due to the title of your post, like you are more focused on telling the wife. If you had an std for sure, then she should know, and probably would know if she still is sleeping with her husband, but otherwise, I don’t think she should be your greatest priority nor should he.
Post # 7
I had similar symptoms around the time I found out I had hpv although I don’t know that hpv caused it. Same thing though wouldn’t go away for months
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
handlecat : I had to delete and re comment but you’re not that far off. PID is usually associated with those Save-The-Date Cards but there are other bacteria which cause it as well. Either way I think OP needs to get back to the doctor asap. None of those symptoms are normal and something is up.
Post # 9
if you’ve stalked her facebook or somehow know they’re actually not separated- Yes, I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me. So I think you should tell the wife.
Post # 10
I don’t know how long after sex with him you got tested for STI’s, but I just found this info:
Reliable STI test timeframes after unprotected sex:
2 weeks: gonorrhea & chlamydia
1 week to 3months: syphillis
6 weeks to 3 months: HIV, Hep C & B
If you were tested before those times the results may not have been reliable.
Post # 11
If he has poor hygiene he may have just given you a yeast infection.
Post # 12
I would not tell his wife he gave you an std when the tests are negative. You don’t have an std if the tests are negative.
Pp had good advice, you should go to the Dr with your symptoms, and definitely have them retest in case they tested too soon for a positive result.
Post # 13
I would go back to the doctor and have them do a full screen. If you tell them your symptoms, they may figure it out. If you know for sure that he was never separated from his wife, I would tell her. Don’t tell her he gave you an STD unless you have confirmation from a doctor but I would tell her that you had sex. If I was her, I would want to know if I was married to a scum bag.
Post # 14
I’m not a medical professional, but the symptoms you’re describign sound like vaginitis, which can be caused by sex but isn’t really an STD. I would see your doctor about it. STD tests don’t test for every STD under the sun (I think herpes and HPV are actually not included in the standard STD testing), but from what you’re describing it doesn’t sound like you have either of those. I also don’t think a yeast infection is solely to blame – yeast infections are nasty but they don’t produce a bad odor. Although if you did have a yeast infection, you need anti-fungals not antibiotics, antibiotics might actually aggravate your symptoms.
As to his wife, leave her out of it and focus on your own emotional and physical healing!
Post # 15
You can’t tell someone’s wife their husband gave you an STD when you don’t have one. Get healthy, first and foremost!