(Closed) Should I tell I know about my proposal?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
8734 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@baskets:  I say don’t tell him.

There is still a surprise element to the proposal. You don’t know when it will happen, what he will say, or what the ring looks like.

You just know that it’s coming and soon.

You can always tell him you “had a feeling” it was coming after the fact, but you don’t need to tell him beforehand.

It’s be a different matter if she’d told you “he’s proposing on x date and this is what the ring looks like”.

Early congratulations to you!

Post # 4
3942 posts
Honey bee

I also vote for don’t tell him.

I knew the weekend my Fiance was going to propose. But when it happened I was SO surprised. It didn’t happen how I thought it would (which made it so much better and exciting!) and I was seriously shocked.

Post # 5
1396 posts
Bumble bee

Nope, don’t tell him! Just let him do his thing and you’ll probably be really surprised anyway! If you’re not, work on faking it. No reason to ruin his hard work because of your stupid friend. 🙂

Post # 6
6995 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I say don’t tell him either. As much as my husband tried to surprise me I have a sister who can’t keep a secret to save her life – I also found some clues on my own. I didn’t want to ruin it for anyone so i just acted like i had no idea. I was still surprised – i didn’t know where or when he was actually going to do it (we spend a weekend in Charleston) i had no idea what he was going to say or what the ring look liked. It was actually kind of nice watching him get more and more nervous. It was still really special. He still doesnt know i knew.

Post # 7
3106 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

don’t tell him! all you know is that there’s a ring- i think he will be able to surprise you anyway.

Post # 8
6244 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Don’t tell him!  He obviously worked really hard to keep this a surprise for you.  Let him carry through with his plans.

Although the cousin might tell him that you know.  So he might revise his plans to catch you off guard…

Post # 9
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not to sound like a broken record, but do NOT tell him!  He is working very hard to do something special for you.  Even if you know it’s coming, it will still be a great moment for you both 🙂  Also, shame on her for going directly to you and ruining some of the surprise! 

Post # 10
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t tell him. I thought my surprise was “ruined” a week before the actual proposal. But you know what, when it happened, it was still the most beautiful moment of my life to this point. It will still be special and wonderful. It sounds like he’s trying really hard, I’d say just go with it and enjoy it.

Post # 11
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You already knew he was going to propose, so really nothing has changed.  You don’t know when, or how he’ll do it, so you’ll still be surprised.  Don’t tell him, and don’t talk to this bone-headed friend of yours again until AFTER he proposes..

Oh… and get a manicure 😉

Post # 12
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

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@MissNoodles:  Good call on the mani-my nails looked like crap!

Agreed-do NOT let on that you know. I was about 90% sure when/where he was going to do it, and it was still wonderful. If he knew that I was suspicious, I think it would have taken something away from the moment for him.

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